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AIBU to feel a bit lost and weepy?

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coraltoes Tue 18-Oct-11 20:15:25

my DH is abroad with work, and away again for four nights from Friday...also work. Dd is teething, no longer sleeping brilliantly as a result and often inconsolable. I have a horrid night ahead on my own and keep crying as I anticipate a god awful weekend too. I have no family around and feel very much alone. I will get not one minutes break at all from dd until weekend after this one, and could just cry at how exhausting I know it will be.

The poor little monkey is usually a delight but despite medicine is still struggling with the pain. Pls share any tips to ease this. And any tips to avoid me going insane.

reelingintheyears Tue 18-Oct-11 20:24:38

Put on a film when she's in bed and have a wine.

It's hard going when they're little.smile

rhondajean Tue 18-Oct-11 20:28:59

Do they still do those teething powders, MIL told me about them and they really seemed to help although they are old fashioned remedy.

I know this isnt really going to help but they did some research on people who think things are going to be positive against people who expect bad things to happen and found we usually get what we expect - is there any way to change the way you are thinking, starting telling yourself its going to be lovely to spend some time alone with DD?

And if DH is back tomorrow till Friday, he should be spending some quality time with her as he is away so much missing her (ie giving you a wee break)?

northernrock Tue 18-Oct-11 20:29:54

Just thank God that you are not alone every night ad nauseum!
Seriously. It does sound hard, but at least you have a DH who is coming home. Not being harsh if it sounds that way, just remembering baby days with no familynear, childless friends totally useless and no DH at all!
Best idea is to find playgroups and have a coffee, find similarly tired women to have a moan to-it does help!

coraltoes Tue 18-Oct-11 20:36:50

Northern, you are right, I am lucky. I have a friend doing this on her own and i have no idea how she manages when things are tough (ie teething, sickness etc)

Rhonda. Sadly he only sees her in the mornings during the week, he gets back after her bedtime. I bet he is missing her lots at the moment. I like that piece of research, "tonight we will sleep like a log" smile

Rogers1 Tue 18-Oct-11 20:37:39

I know only too well how you are feeling. Ashton & Parson teething granules are a god send....really help! Have an action-plan...where you get out & about each day...fresh air & change of scene will do you both good.
When little one is in bed...chocolate...DVD..wine or an early night to recoup some well deserved sleep!

coraltoes Tue 18-Oct-11 20:38:39

Rogers...I am in bed now. Lights out at 9 I think! Zzzzzz

northernrock Tue 18-Oct-11 20:40:14

You will be fine! I get the fear of it-another sleepless night etc, but take it day by day.
And if she is asleep now-get yourself to bed! (Thats how we do it-no social life and many early nights!)

aldiwhore Tue 18-Oct-11 20:44:59

Coraltoes I do empathise and lonliness is all relative, if you feeling down and weepy now that's okay. And whilst its true that others have it infintely worse than you (there's always someone worse off than anyone in some way or other) so long as you keep things in perspective I don't think YABU to have a little wallow.

My DH is also away, and much as I enjoy it, and up my 'coffee mornings with random aquiantances' during this time it does get a litle lonely sometimes.

I've just poured a glass of red, lit the fire, had a bath and got comfy... I'm wallowing a little, but I'm damn well going to enjoy the peace until midnight when undoubtedly my 4 yr old will want a wee/be starving/have something important to say, the thought of doing that alone every night for a good while does seem exhausting!

You'll muddle through, what choice do you hav? This is a time to have a little wallow, and then 'woman' up to the task in hand... it a few days, your DH will be home again, then its a whole other different load of stress wink

ChippingInToThePumpkinLantern Tue 18-Oct-11 20:45:49

Definitely get in A&P, calpol, nurofen - and that's just for you! No, for her smile Make her as comfortable as you can - don't worry about holding off giving it to her, you'd take pain killers if your teeth hurt. Get a few 'distractors' ready (wooden spoon, plastic slotted spoon, big chunky bracelet, old phone - basically things she doesn't normally have to play with) and take her to your bed!! Just do whatever it takes to get through the nights - worry about her routine/the rod another time!! I think if you just get into the mindset of doing what you reasonably can to comfort her and getting through it, it makes it much easier than thinking about 'settling' her for the night & stopping her crying. I'm not sure I've explained that very well confused

coraltoes Tue 18-Oct-11 20:54:02

Chipping, you have don't worry! Might use DH passport as a teether so he can't escape again! wink

Aldi, you are right. And usually i love these nights on my own...soak, face mask, whatever. It is just not having the usual support for the tough times. Fngers crossed your 4yo decides it is too chilly to get out of bed to bother entertain you.

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