i havent spoken to my mum in 6 months, we hadnt fallen out, she just wont talk on the phone or get out of bed if i go round to her house.
a few days ago i had an issue with my niece who liives with my mum and dad.
she had spread some rumours around school about my son and so i asked her why, she bacme aggressive and abusive and then walked away mid-rant as per teenager behaviour.
anyway i rang my dad to ask him to have a word as she wouldnt stop shouting and swearing long enough to listen to me. dad said he would talk to her and find out why she was doing it. he rang me the next morning to say he had spoken to her and it wouldnt be happening again. so as far as i was concerned it was done and dealt with.
then today, 4 days after the event my mum rang me. i was suprised to say the least and straight assumed something had happened to my dad, i asked her what was wrong, and she let rip. how dare i accuse my niece of spreading these rumours (i know it was her as the school rang me to tell me what was going on), how dare i threaten to beat the crap out of her (???) and who do i think i am going to my dad to tell tales on her.
i couldnt get a word in to give my side, i thought about hanging up but i knew if i did nothing would be resolved so i thought i would just let my mum get it off her chest then i would have my say at the end.
anyway i never got my say as my mum ended the call by telling me im finished and as far as she is concerned i am dead to her as are my children.
im left thinking what the hell what that all about???
my husband told me to wait a day or two then ring my dad and ask him where it all came from, however i am sat here about 20 minutes ago and thought i would check my fb, i logged on and saw i had a notification, i clicked it and it was from my dad, who until today hasnt had a fb account, anyway the message on my wall read like this.....
how dare you accuse your mother on here of calling you and your kids t*s, she did not say that she has never said that and i want an apology or i will be taking you to court.
i didnt bother to reply, i just removed it, i havent been on fb all day and there is nothing on my fb to suggest i have been hacked and this has been put on my fb, there is nothing anywhere about my mum.
i have no idea where this has come from, or why he is being nasty to me as previously we have always been extremely close, my mum and i on the other hand, is a totally different story, she told me when i was 16 that she wished she had aborted me and that she resents me for taking her husband away from her, she never once cuddled me as a kid and i have got to 34 without her ever once telling me she loves me.
part of me wants to ring my dad and ask him what i have done wrong to warrent all this but then after what he put on my fb, im not sure. as for my mum i couldnt care less if i never saw her again tbh.
what do i do???? do i just cut them off or what?
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fostermumtomany · 14/10/2011 22:23
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