To think this punishment was harsh/ridiculous?

[CheesyWotzits]

DD (6) has been answering back lately and DH has come down on it hard. She did it yesterday (and played up a bit in genral) so he said she wasn't allowed to do her spellings because of it.

She has a list of spellings to learn every week and she reallly enjoys doing them so he figured he would stop her doing something she enjouyed until she can stop answering back.

She pushed her brother this evening and DH told her off, she replied 'I'm not your friend anymore' and he told her she couldn't do her spellings tonight either. I said yes she could and DH and I have now fallen out over it.

[HeadfirstForHocusPocus]

He wants to punish her by preventing her from doing her homework?

YANBU, that is ridiculous.

[CupOfBrownJoy]

Ridiculous

[CheesyWotzits]

I think so too and put my foot down, She can learn them in an evening and has til next monday is his argument

[usualsuspect]

[CheesyWotzits]

This is honestly what has just happened. DH is putting them to bed now.

[usualsuspect]

He sounds like an idiot then

[verytellytubby]

Ridiculous

Why would you make school work a punishment?????? Madness.

[Bluebell99]

Your dh is an idiot. Hths.

[thisisyesterday]

if she can learn them in an evening, and doesn't have to do them until Monday then tbh I wouldn't have undermined him tonight.

i would have talked to him later and pointed out that it's ridiculous to stop her doing school work.
but i wouldn't have said so in front of her

[CheesyWotzits]

He's making not doing her school work a punishment as she really enjoys doing it and he is trying to teach her not to answer back... it's fucking idiotic

[thisisyesterday]

yeah, it is.
but undermining him isn't going to help is it?

i would have stood by him this evening, but made sure he didn't do it again.

[CheesyWotzits]

I couldn't quite believe it, she was trying to do them on her own as he hd taken the sheet away, I took it back to her as was quite shocked at what was going on... He did the same last night but it was more along the lines of i'm not sitting down with you to do them if you can't behave

[usualsuspect]

I would have told him not to be so bloody stupid

[CheesyWotzits]

I did

[sayithowitis]

So what alternative consequence did you suggest?

[squeakytoy]

he is a pillock..

[TheVermiciousKnid]

she replied 'I'm not your friend anymore'

Best response to this, in my opinion: 'Oh, that's a shame. But I'm still your friend.' Said with a smile. :)

[Rosa]

Erm YRNBU at all ...Yes stop something ( a toy or a treat) but not something educational.....He is being silly

[CheesyWotzits]

I didn't suggest anything at the time but if he isnt sulking will suggest he doesn't take a 6 yr old telling him shes not his friend so seriously...

[RitaMorgan]

It isn't a good punishment but YABU to undermine him like that - should have had a quiet word after.

[lashingsofbingeinghere]

It sounds like your DH and DD are clashing over small things. Have a quiet word with him about why DD is pushing his buttons and how he should respond in an adult and constructive way. A 6 year old saying I am not your friend is not worthy of a response imo.