To text instead of call?

[ihatecbeebies]

DS has been invited to a birthday party but won't be able to go as that is his weekend he spends with his dads family. I don't know the mum well as he just started in August and we are new to the area but a mobile number is on the invite, would it be ok or cheeky to RSVP by text? I really hate talking on the phone and get really anxious calling people, even friends, and DS goes to morning/after school club in the morning so I won't see her in the playground.

[A1980]

I really hate talking on the phone and get really anxious calling people, even friends,.

Really?! That'll rub off on your DS you know.

Just text her. It's a non issue tbh.

[ihatetoclean]

I would text i always do, and also if its a mobile number thats prob what they would rather. I always put my mobile number as it makes it easier for people to text me if they dont really know me well.

[squeakytoy]

I would say a polite text is perfectly acceptable..

"Thanks for your kind invite, but DS is away at his dads that weekend so unfortunately he wont be able to attend" would be fine for me..

[AuntiePickleBottom]

would his father take him to the party???

[Bohica]

Text is fine and your own anxieties won't necessarily rub off onto your chilren either.

[AuntiePickleBottom]

also with party invites it's best to text, as it will be saved on her phone until she can cross DC off the list

[OddBoots]

Anxieties aside I think a text is usually best with invites as long as you make it clear which child you are replying for. A text can be referred back to later if they forget who said what whereas a phone call comes and goes.

[ihatecbeebies]

Thanks, DS hasn't been invited to many parties before other than people we know well as he's only just started school so I'm not sure on the etiquette and don't want to seem rude!

A1980 - I've got a pretty bad anxiety disorder which am trying to overcome with help from doctor etc, I'm not like that intentionally, but as DS is on the autistic spectrum he gets really loud and excited quite a lot and its difficult to calm
him down if i'm on the phone so I go into another room to make calls anyway so I can hear the other person so hopefully he'll be ok

[Mumleigh]

Texting is fine. I'm organising my DS's party at the moment and everyone has RSVPd by text. As long as you thank them for the invitation and explain why they can't attend it's ok.

[Meteorite]

I think text is fine :) Most important thing is to reply at all.

[ihatecbeebies]

No his father can't take him, they stay a 3 hour round trip away so take him on the Friday and drop him back off on Sunday on the weekend they have him and the party is on a Saturday, it would be too much for them.

[AuntiePickleBottom]

awww thats a shame :(

[PattySimcox]

Text is fine. If you feel worried about how they may perceive a text then perhaps say that you felt that 10.45 was too late a time to call them, and then that will make you look thoughtful too.

[PattySimcox]

Forgot to add - this is your chance to invite the friend round to play if you wish to, and give you an opportunity to get to know another parent from school - always useful to check details of homework / assembly / trip etc when you can't get in touch with the school.

[notlettingthefearshow]

Text is fine. Do it and don't worry about it!