I have named changed so I can show this thread to relevant people in RL. I know all about fruitshoot hating, dog owner hating and the rest.
I am divorcing H and DS who is 3 does not know his father and has no memory of him. I have been in contact with a man who lives away for well over a year now. Chatting daily via Skype, Facebook, phone. When my divorce is through I want to start dating this man. I obviously have to look at the bigger picture and not do anything stupid that could hurt DS.
DS has a very strong relationship with my parents. We see them several times in a week and are very close. DS adores my father. He is the closest thing to a dad DS has. If I start a relationship with this man and all went well it could mean moving well away from my parents (so much so that we would only see them three to four times a year). I know this is years away and all would have to go very smoothly and we would have to be very careful about everything so as not to hurt DS, but I have to look at the big picture.
I talked to my family about this today. They do not like the idea of me dating someone who I might eventually move for and take DS away from them. They think it is not fair to DS. (possible)DP can not move. His job could not allow it. His skills are not transferable. If I date him and it turned into a serious relationship it would have to be me and DS that moved eventually.
I understand my parent's hurt and fear of the idea, but I am too emotionally involved to see if they are right that I can't take DS away from them.
Someone talk sense to me. Are they right? Or are they letting their own fears take over?
Ask any questions you need. It is hard to know what important bits I may have missed.
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mightusethread · 17/09/2011 23:23
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