I've been attending an Asian wedding recently (I am Asian btw and weddings last days and days), and some women there have taken a shine to me as I know alot of songs and generally like mingling with everyone.
I'm not rich. My husband doesn't have the best job in the world. We earn enough to live comfortably and I recently left my job to do an MSc (this is all relevant information).
Today SIL makes remarks to me on the phone pointing out each person who I was talking to and telling me "that woman is rich she lives in a massive house on so and so road. The one sitting on the sofa was rich. The one sitting opposite you was really rich aswell..these women were all really rich"....I kind of got the idea of what she was saying, and replied "well I don't really believe in a class system in this country, and I think that's a stupid mentality to have. I may not be rich, but I'm still human" to which she replied "These women talk too much and start asking questions about your life and best not to talk to them".....
My SIL sends her children to private school so has something in common with these women, but it seems like she was embarrassed of me and my husband, or jealous that I was talking to these women.
I was so angry when I got off the phone. I very nearly said "well I better not talk to these high class women then today?" to her, but I bit my lip. I felt really depressed about my life for about 10 mins contemplating about whether to go to the wedding party, and then I though F it. I am who I am. I may not be rich or send my daughter to private school - but I am more educated than SIL, and I always believe you should talk to all types of people at their level. I didn't even know who these women were, or that they were rich or how many cars they had. All I knew was that I was having a good time singing and dancing.
I just want to understand what would possess someone to say something like this to dampen another person's spirits? I felt really low class like I was a nothing and shouldn't talk to anyone. Do you think it was jealousy or embarrassment of me?
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I think my SIL is being unreasonable. Quite hurt by her remarks.
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MrBloomsNursery · 14/09/2011 23:18
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