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to think I need a really hard slap?

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JjandtheBeanlovesUnicorns Fri 09-Sep-11 21:42:18

After the chaotic year we had I delayed ds' start to primary school thinking wed never be settled in time for september and had no desire to move him from a preschool he was very settled at (after much hard work) to re-settle him at a new primary school only to move him again when we were housed.

Anyway long story short we got housed end of july, 20mins away from 'home' so to speak but are very happy and more settled than ever. Ds preschool went back two weeks ago and its taking 45mins to get there each morning and costing a lot in fuel and fees as four half days isn't enough for him anymore.

So on passing I popped to our local primary, turns out due to renovation they're not opening for reception until next week and they have a space. I had a long chat to ds and we looked round and dp and I decided it was best he left preschool after all and went to primary when all his peers would.

The preschool he's at I know the staff personally so was very relaxed about him starting, but he was only four 6weeks ago, he is so independant and can fully dress/undress/do shoes etc so why am I fretting.

Problem is I'm having panic attacks about him not coping, he desperatly wants 'hot dinners' so having looked over the menu and tried one I'm happy for that but then I panic and think will he make the right choices, what if he drops his tray? Will he be understood (had speech delay and struggles when stressed) also a whole school trip to the zoo is planned and that means a coach, no carseats.
And a million other irrational worries, I'm being ridiculously pfb aren't I? So give me a virtual slap and tell me hell be fine and love every second!

FabbyChic Fri 09-Sep-11 21:44:14

Hey its natural to be worried your boy is growing up, he will be fine really, and all the other little dudes are in the same boat too, having to endure it all for the first time. He will make great friends and have lots of fun.

Changing2011 Fri 09-Sep-11 21:44:32

I delayed my dd was five and I think she has been fab settling in. You know your child best. It's not "pfb".

madamarcati Fri 09-Sep-11 22:44:36

Are you sure this isn't about your inability to cope without him, rather than the other way round??

mumsamilitant Fri 09-Sep-11 22:55:24

I practically shoved my one in! only kidding. It's very natural to have squillions of mad worries. My son used to vice like grip my leg and howl like banshee be a bit reluctant to go in at first but was fine really - I know this for a fact coz I hung around and peeked the window <due to my sheer neediness and inability to cope without him angry after the second day and there he was having a great time.

mumsamilitant Fri 09-Sep-11 22:57:05

for all the "pendants" yes, I know there should have been another bracket after emicon.

Kayano Fri 09-Sep-11 23:00:28

slaps you

thinks

cuddles you

He'll be fine, relax and think how much easier everything will be!

bakeyouhappy Sat 10-Sep-11 00:10:26

I changed my mind (and plans and schools) 4 times before I made a decision with ds1.

bakeyouhappy Sat 10-Sep-11 00:10:33

I changed my mind (and plans and schools) 4 times before I made a decision with ds1.

JjandtheBeanlovesUnicorns Sat 10-Sep-11 00:12:04

Thanks, sorry for the very slow reply I'm in the middle of the hellish task of labelling. Why did I buy sew ins? One hour and I've done, school shoes, plimsoles, two jumpers and one pair of trousers... Half way there.

I'm really looking forward to one on one with dd but I had a hard time at school as did dp so were very anxious for ds, he was prem and hasn't had things easy and I do worry so much he will be picked on, he swaps ds and bs round when he talks... Kids are cruel.

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