To cut a long story short, and to avoid possible identification on here, my friend has been having an affair since early this year. She has recently started divorce proceedings and has now confessed all to her soon to be ex-dh.
A couple of months ago, before she separated from her dh, she told me everything that had been going on. I was the only friend she confided in, and while I quietly didn't exactly condone her actions I was supportive of her and made myself available to her as a sounding board and a confidante.
Since the whole affair has now become public, she seems to have gone quiet on me. I fully appreciate that she needs time to breathe, speak to her other friends (of which she has several) and try to get her life on track. I have made it clear to her that I am here if she needs me but I will not hound her as I appreciate she may not always be in the mood to talk. I did leave a message on her phone about three days ago as I knew she was moving into her new home, but haven't had so much as a text from her in response.
I have since heard that she is now in regular contact with a couple of other friends and I also know that she is seeing her lover.
I hate to sound needy and playground-y and fully appreciate that I may, but I feel that during the time that I was her only confidante, I went through quite a bit of an emotional rollercoaster. Nothing compared to what she was going through, but it was weird being the only person to know, and seeing her dh innocently going about not knowing the situation. Now she has gone quiet, I feel that she has all her other friends around her rallying round and now I kind of feel dumped!
Someone tell me to get a grip - I'm not exactly short of friends myself and really I know I should be relieved that the whole thing isn't a big secret anymore... just can't help feeling a bit used that's all!
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AmIaDumpee · 02/09/2011 11:40
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