highlights...
broke up with my dad when i was 2, met my brothers dad when i was 3, had my two brothers, broke up with that guy when i was 11, from that point going out clubbing thursday, friday, saturday night with me babysitting, brothers were aged 4 and 1, that went on till i was 14, i did have friends stay over in the weekends because i was very rarely aloud to stay away because there was no one to look after brothers, she started working nights at this stage and i left school had a full time job, i wanted to move out with bf but wasnt aloud due to babysitting duties again bf ended up moving in, a few months later she met a man on the internet, they talked on the phone for a few months came to our town (he lived a few hours away) for what us kids were told was him meeting us and her etc, he ended up moving in that day.. he was a ex gang member, lazy didnt do anything, drunk HEAPS, and did drugs, i then got depression at 16 and was told to stop working for a bit to get the right medication etc, i was worried about how i would pay board etc mum said not to worry about it..
after about 6weeks off work, my mum confronted me yelling at me saying i owed her $500 etc she wanted her money, for the 1st time in my life i stuck up to her and said u said i didnt have to worry about $? she was high on marijuana at the time, got really mad that i had spoken back to her and started punching me... afterwards i jumped out my window and called my dad to pick me up, (only saw him 2-3 times a year he had new family, wife, kids etc.
didnt talk to my mum for a while, tried to commit suicide and then moved in with my dad. after several months i got in contact with my mum to see how she was etc, i also felt really bad for my brothers as the only family they have is my mum. We started getting on very well, went to a wedding with her of 1 of her work friends were i met my amazing dp ( who i have a 3yr old dd a son on the way and just got engaged) everything was going great. until her bf started sending me very disgusting sexual txts, example iwannalickyourclit... i didnt reply and showed mum her answer was he didnt know what he was sending... a day later she rand me abusing me saying i had led him on... (which i in no way did i couldnt stand him and bearly spoke to him) i was trying to ruin her life, im never happy if shes happy.. the bf was yelling in the back ground hes gonna get ppl to smash me... i was a mess, went to dp house (still lived with his parents) to find my mum had rung dps stepmum (her work mate) and told her she better watch i was gonna try and steal her husband etc and ALOT of other very untrue things. I then was no longer alloud at thier house.
Again didnt talk to mum for awhile but her bf kept getting sent to prison and everytime he did she would always call me apologisng and with her being my mum i always forgave her.. dp and i have lent her more money then i can even remember. Once they got kicked out of their house while i was preg with dd they had no place to go so dp and i stayed with friend for a week so they ( mum, bf, 2brothers, their dog) could stay in our tiny 1bdroom flat... she didnt have much to do with dd when younger as i wouldnt allow her bf at our house which ment she didnt visit. Her bf stole off a gang, she needed money so stole off her work, got caught, got arrested, lost her job and now has criminal record. after her bf cheeting on her etc she finally kicked him out, we gave her more money. started being a great grandmother to dd would have her to stay every second weekend, was there for me when dp and i seperated for a week, she really helped me through it.... she didnt have a car so i would take her shopping every week etc, dp and i got a 2nd car cheap $1000 run about, got into money trouble and couldn't afford to keep paying it, my mum offered to take over repayments and pay us back the 400 we had already paid (never paid us back) she refused to look for a job beacause her excuse was her bf had ruined her life and it was his fault she couldnt get a job etc i finally got her a job at my work, but she still complains its not good enough as its just cleaning, she stared getting wasted all day everyday again sees dd for maybe an hour every 3weeks, kept telling me its time we have another baby etc etc now im 25weeks preg she says im not ready and wont be able to cope, always makes me feel like im a bad parent when i would die for my dd, some good friends i had i made the mistake of introducing them to her because she had no friends, she managed to turn me against them and make me think they were back stabbers etc when in fact they wernt now iv lost my good friends... but at the day shes my mum the only family i have. (my dad now lives on the other side of the world to me) i love her soo much, and she was there for me last year when i really needed her... and i feel i need to be their for my brothers... so sorry for the long novel... if anyone is still reading, please can i have some advice? dp saying he doesnt want anything to do with her but dd misses her.. ( i havnt spoken to her for a few weeks...
Please or to access all these features
Please
or
to access all these features
AIBU?
to not want my mum in my life anymore?
14 replies
needsanswers · 02/09/2011 01:16
OP posts:
Please create an account
To comment on this thread you need to create a Mumsnet account.