I am probably way over thinking this, but I have been with my DP since I was 15, so 5 years this october. He is 2 years older than me. When he was old enough to go in town drinking, he did (without me as I was underage), most weekends then came to my house to stay the night. And then I turned 18, we went in town a few times but hardly as much as he used to go out without me. Now we have a 10 week old DD, and he has been out 5 weeks in a row. To me it feels like he doesn't want to go out with me. To me it feels like he just likes to go out if I can't go out too. I'm BFing so can't leave DD yet. I guess I just feel left out. I haven't had a night out in months! What does everyone else think? I don't mind him going out every so often but not every week as this is turning out to be! Am I just over thinking this or what?
Have you discussed this with him? I don't think there's a wrong or right answer here. I'm not of the school of thought that he necessarily ought to stay home all the time because you can't leave DD either, but I'd probably be quite upset if DP went out that frequently if he knew it bothered me.
When you have finished BFing you will be able to take it in turns to go out won't you? Just concentrate on being a mommy for now, it's the most important job you can do. He is just taking advantage of the situation as it is at present.
I don't think either myself OR DH went out for the first 3 months with DS1 as we were so topsyturvey with the whole thing - and seem to remember the 'head wetting' thing causing a few arguments even then.
And I do remember agreeing to a mutual 3month ban for going out when we had DS2 so we could get ourselves sorted.
YANBU, when you both decided to have a family its 50/50 down the line in my book. If he is going out, then you should be getting a treat of equal portion lined up in some way shape or form - or how else could it ever be fair?
No I haven't. I will do when he gets home. Last thing he said just as he went out was "I'll only be an hour" that was 2 hours ago tbh I should know better than to take him seriously when he says he'll "only be x amount of time".
FFS and to top it all off there's a fucking MAHOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOSIVE spider sat about 3 feet away from me on the floor. Bloody things. If they fucking insist on being spiders then they could at least be discreet about it!!
I threw a soggy tissue at it, flicked a hair bobble at it, then it ran towards me so i threw the whole box of tissues. I then ran out of things to throw and it just sat there for a few minutes, then disappeared then DP came home just as i spotted it again and he hoovered it up