in thinking that DH spending time with DS could involve a million things other than...

[Alliwantisaroomsomewhere]

... going to fucking Burger King?

We are married, living as family etc etc etc. Every now and then (maybe every third weekend) DH takes DS aged nearly 7 out, and they go to BK.

I KNOW I am not being unreasonable, but now do I steer him into doing something else with him without it turning into a goddawful row? Just kicking the ball about in the field across our house would be an easy, cheap start.

How do I do it????????????????????

[squeakytoy]

Does your son enjoy this treat? If so, then YABU.

[GypsyMoth]

Give him the ball?

Why fo you fetl the need to control what they do together?

[Ladymuck]

Don't.

Just don't interfere in his relationship with his son. Especially if he is doing something which they are both happy with.

[Alliwantisaroomsomewhere]

Point taken. IABU!

(Does the fact that I am miserable, 10 weeks pregnant and anxious about EVERYTHING excuse the fact that IABU??)

[magicmummy1]

Relax - once every few weeks won't do him a lot of harm. :)

Can you not just ask him to take a ball and have a kickaround on the other sundays? Or would that lead to a row?

[rhondajean]

Maybe they like being able to sit and talk rather than running round doing things?

Are you worried about the implications of the unhealthy food being associated with a treat with his dad?

If its once every three weeks, I wouldnt be worried.

[Alliwantisaroomsomewhere]

gawd... here come the tears. Told you I was miserable!

[rhondajean]

Awwwww dont, it might be worth telling DH it bothers you and why, because if you are like me, if I dont it comes out in another way (I get snappy !!)

But its not worth upsetting yourself over, just enjoy the peace and quiet and have a nice cuppa. Check its okay when you are pregnant but camomile tea is really soothing.

[Alliwantisaroomsomewhere]

Thanks, Rhonda. I think I should rather leave it completely today because I had such a bad night's sleep which really makes me feel crap nowadays. DH has already asked me what is wrong and he only got out of bed 45 minutes ago so best I just keep the peace!

Thanks, everyone! I will stop being so sanctimonious - for the time being.

[joric]

If it makes you feel any better... DH has just gone out for walk with map and not asked DD if she wants to go :(
Burger King it may be but they are out with each other- you can relax! :)

[DecapitatedLegoman]

Send them to BK and tell them to linger FGS, then get yourself back to bed woman! :)

[defrocked]

lol the old "oh i am pregnant so thats why i am unreasonable"

that cracks me up

no love, you just want to control his choices :)

[LoveBeingAtHomeOnMyOwn]

Is it cause it's bk? Is it cause you want a bk? Is it cause they never do anything else at all? Is it cause your ds has complained? Is it cause your ds eats to much junk already?

[susiedaisy]

Defrocked- that's harsh

[LoveBeingAtHomeOnMyOwn]

I really want a bk now and I get one much less often then your ds.

[Alliwantisaroomsomewhere]

Defrocked: a big combo - not of the BK variety but of the control + emotional!

Lovebeingathome: DS loves going there, I don't particularly like it so DH and DS go together. We went out for supper last night, so there is not real need to go out again for lunch today - I worry about money all the time and more so now that I am probably going on maternity leave and I am self employed. Also DS could benefit more from a kick around with a ball because he plays lots of pc games because I let him (bad mother).

So I suppose there is a whole lot more to this than me being in a mood because DH is taking DS to BK. Not a particulary interesting AIBU and not a particularly feisty one. I usually roll over and concede defeat on these boards, anyway.

[PrincessJenga]

Awww, OP, have a [tea] and a [hug] and fgs go back to bed and take advantage of having a chance to rest!

[Alliwantisaroomsomewhere]

They do a few other things together but they are usually sedentary activities. They are playing the Wii at the moment but I suppose at least they are doing something together.

The minute they walk out the door to do the BK thing, I will be chucking myself back into bed!

[pranma]

my dh used to take my ds out occasionally-just the two of them.They went to a Wimpy bar[long ago] and always enjoyed it.Ds loved the squeezy tomatoes with ketchup in them.Dh died when ds was 16 and had been ill[MS] for years before.You know what ds's fondest memory of his dad is...those ketchup containers!Your two are building memories-let it be YAB a bit U

[justcallmemummypig]

pranma, what a sad but lovely post...i'll remember that one x

[pointydog]

yabu. Once a month and they both enjoy it? Fine.

[Alliwantisaroomsomewhere]

Pranma, that is certainly something I will bear in mind when the two make their own decision again to do something...