after they've been here ALL DAY playing with my DCs.
I just told them it was time to go home, got their shoes, showed them the door (in the nicest possible way) and said their parents were probably wondering where they were - byeeeee!
DH thinks this is a bit rude, and I should have offered for them to stay for tea, or waited for a while to see if they suggested leaving themselves. He thinks they will probably go home and tell their parents I rudely kicked them out. I think that seeing as I haven't seen any of their parents for HOURS, I am not BU to send them home! Also, if I give them tea with my DCs then their parents might not be happy with that (they may have their own dinner planned).
Btw, this was not any kind of pre-arranged playdate, this was an impromptu thing as a result of bad weather when they were all playing out (they are aged between 5 and 7).
So AIBU thinking that normal visitor courtesy doesn't apply to children? 
AIBU?
Re. evicting other people's children from my house....
RedHotPokers · 26/08/2011 17:49
Wow, you are not at all rude - how kind of you to have children around all day. My husband would be seething under his breath so you obviously have a very nice DH .
I often say to 'casual' friends of DS - 'time to go home now' - hadn't even given it a thought that it might be rude.
waited for them to suggest leaving??? Has he met children? They might just move in if you did that.
I invite them for dinner if I feel like it, but they have to go ask tehir mother/dinner cook first - otherwise I tell them it's time to go home when I've had enough.
Gosh no YANBU. I can get the whole street in sometimes (feels like it anyway). After several hours and lots of noise I do politely request that they go home now. Generally they go without too much fuss but sometimes there's a straggler or two
I tend to he nice. I never give them tea unless I've okayed it with a parent first.
They were playing in my garden first, so guess the parents presumed they were here. Noone checked though which I did think was bizarre.
Not rude, necessary!
I often seem to have a houseful (why are they always here?) I never offer food other than fruit/ a biscuit unless it's pre-arranged. I would assume they will have a meal waiting for them at home. I just tell them it's time to go and although the random children I seem to get are slightly older (9-10) there's never an issue with it, they just go 
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Depending on who they are I might get DS1 to walk home with them, so I can wash my hands of them know they've got there and I always ask them if mum knows where they are when they arrive.
Children were 6 and 7 (my DD is 5). I did wonder about speaking to neighbours, but am new to the whole 'playing out' thing (cos DD has only just started to), and thought maybe I was being a bit neurotic! kids do seem a bit feral round here .
Kept windows wide open and lingered within earshot just in case parents came a-calling. They didn't.
I suppose you have to look at it like this.
If you'd gone out there today and couldn't find your daughter anywhere, I'm sure you'd be livid if you found her in someone else's house.
Not just livid with her but probably more so with the parents for not asking you?
I know you meant well though
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Yes, I did mean well Worra !
They both promised me they had told their parents they were over our house (albeit in the garden initially). However, if I hadn't been able to find my DD I would have called out for her in the street (as most parents here do). If the parents had done that today, I would have heard them (windows wide open) and gone out to explain.
Ahh ok fair do's
I'd still be livid about that heart stopping few minutes they'd put me through 
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