We're due to have baby in the next few weeks and have decided not to reveal our choice of names until baby is born. We don't know the sex and think it'll be nice for DH to announce baby, sex, name and weight once he/she has arrived.
DH did once mention one name I liked (but he didnt) to his family which then got weeks of 'oh no - that's not a nice name' down young nieces comments of 'you can't call a baby that' - obviously mimicking the adults. It's a very normal name that I still love but since then I've been even more determined to keep quiet about names.
My family wanted to know at first but have now accepted they'll have to wait and have even turned it into a game and have written down their guesses.
DH's family has not stopped asking from day one but I've been fine with it and laughed it off until this last week!
DH has mentioned the middle name (if it's a boy it'll be a family name from his side) and accidentally the girls middle name to his Mum (which will be for my Mum, which I wanted her to hear first). I told MIL it was a secret and she said she'd not told anyone else but she's obviously told her side of the family as now the young neices are asking what we'll call baby and using the middle name already! Grrrr! I know it sounds petty but I'm fuming! And it's such an unusual name it couldnt have been a lucky guess.
In the last few weeks, everytime I've seen my neices they go on about names and my fake smile is wearing thin. Am I being unreasonable to ask them not to ask me again or should this be down to SIL? If it were my child and I knew a friend/family member really didn't want to discuss names I'd tell them to damn well leave her alone!
Rant over :)
AIBU?
to just wish they would damn wait and stop asking!
Newmummytobe79 · 25/08/2011 08:43
Underlying 'problems' with the on laws is there? This is just another excuse to dislike them I think! Come on, how petty is this??
Love how in your eyes your own family have done the correct thing though 
Knew this would cause conflicting answers!
Mitmoo - I know lots of people don't understand the reasoning behind keeping names secret but it's the one thing I can keep private after nine months of being asked about everything including when I think 'my dates' are - ie: which time of doing it do you think made baby! 
plus since we only have one boys name and one girls name I couldnt bear a cats bum face at the names we've chosen. Baby will be introduced with name and they'll like it or slag it off behind our backs (instead of in front of us before baby arrives!)
FetchezLaVache - phew! Glad it's not just my blood pressure! :)
Just to make it very clear - this is not meant to be an inlaw bash and I would feel exactly the same if my family were going on about it. Except I'd probably just tell them how it is ... whereas I wouldn't dream of telling my inlaws to just shut up!
It is possible to make your point without being unkind, children are frequently told to drop a subject, or to stop teasing someone.
Tell the adults then. 
Discomfort?? Really?? You're in for a helluva time after the baby's here, if two little girls asking about its name is causing you discomfort already! And I still don't understand why you can't say nicely "please stop going on about the babys name, I'm not going to tell you", to them if it's really bothering you that much. 
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