I hate Christmas in our house, my mum is twice divorced and now remarried. So on top of the usual visiting everyone at Christmas time, i have my mum, dad, step dad then all the grandparents, aunties and uncles, its also my mums birthday on Christmas day.
For the past 3 years ive spent it with my dp, brother, my nan and stepdad.
To add into this mayhem my mil & fil always try to get me to go to theres on xmas day (they start drinking at 9am, spend the afternoon in a pub, have there dinner at 3 and continue drinking - not my idea of fun at all), ive always declined just cos its my mums birthday and i like to see her, i usually go and see them on christmas evening, boxing day for a family party and then we go again through the week for tea so nobody gets left out.
This year though we have bought a house for the first time, its actually my mum and step dad's house, as i haven't seen her on her birthday for a few years id like to say a massive thank you to her by having xmas and her birthday in our new house, yesterday mil made a remark that made me stop cold, we were sat chatting and she commented on how our dining room would have to be ready for christmas so they could all fit in (by all she means her, fil, sil and partner, bil and his partner, a crazy uncle, and crazy uncles mistress). I sat staring in shock that she had invited herself to christmas dinner and when i spoke to dp later he said well you have to have it with them 1 year they feel left out. We see them constantly, much more than i see my own parents which is the way i like it, im 31 and dont feel the need to still make contact with my mum and dad every day. im also my nans main carer so wouldnt dream of leaving her out at christmas to sit with a load of drunks.
Am i wrong to make a fuss, ive said we could have them over on boxing day or even christmas night, they dont have dinner till late anyway but no thats not good enough, im expected to go the pub with them early on and rink myself into a stupor..... i just want an easy day to relax with people i like, aibu for wanting that????
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Honeypie80 · 21/08/2011 07:50
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