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To be a bit annoyed at this remark but not want to make a fuss....

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passingtime Fri 12-Aug-11 09:26:38

A workmate is selling me her tumble dryer and is dropping it off tonight.

The comment she has just made has bothered me a bit about my dp

'I will drop the tumble dryer off tonight, dp isn't gonna be there is he?!?!' (said whilst making this face : confused

Her dad is helping her and is vvvvv posh. I am wondering if its because my dp is a bit rough round the edges?

AuntieMonica Fri 12-Aug-11 09:27:48

did she make this face to you?

did you not ask what the face was for?

jeckadeck Fri 12-Aug-11 09:31:16

if its a reference to your dp then YANBU, its extremely rude. But ask her. You may have got the wrong end of the stick and it might be something completely different.

passingtime Fri 12-Aug-11 09:31:38

She did make this face to me yes. We work in a call centre and she is opposite me behind a partition so I didn;t want to ask her in front of all our other colleagues (all of whom really like my dp!)

purplepidjin Fri 12-Aug-11 09:35:46

Sounds like her issue, tbh. And her loss at dismissing half the male species!!

Any chance DP can round up a bunch of his more tattooed mates to "help"?? wink

clam Fri 12-Aug-11 09:36:31

Well if they all like your DP then they'd have been on your side if she explained her remark and it was unflattering to him.
You don't want to make a fuss. I understand that, but if the boot was on the other foot and one of your DP's colleagues said something similar to him about you, wouldn't you want to know he'd challenged it?

worraliberty Fri 12-Aug-11 09:37:03

Maybe you've misinterpreted her and she meant "I don't supposed he can give me a hand, can he?"

passingtime Fri 12-Aug-11 09:39:25

yes clam you are right. I will ask her but will do it on our cigarette break when we normally just go out together.

Her tone of voice suggested she didn't want him to be there, not that she would need his help....

AuntieMonica Fri 12-Aug-11 09:44:12

i think you should be direct but non-confrontational with her.
ask her 'what did you mean when you asked if DP was going to be there or not', and then go from there.

springydaffs Fri 12-Aug-11 09:46:31

this could be anything but i would definitely clarify it OP. You could calmly say you didn't want to raise the issue in front of everyone but could she explain 'the face', as you can't work out what she meant by it. It could be that she is aware of male pride and wouldn't want to step on his toes as it were. You've got to clear it up though.

If she makes a disparaging comment about your OH, doff her one tell her she can stick her posh tumble drier. I hope it's all a misunderstanding though.

StrandedBear Fri 12-Aug-11 11:01:53

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