I?ve been seeing my boyfriend for 2 years. We are both divorced and each have 2 children. We share the same morals, values, enjoy each other?s company, think alike, have fun and have had a great 2 years. We?ve just returned from a holiday with all our kids, and it was great. The kids are similar ages and get on well.
We live an hour apart (50 miles), and that has been the only problem in the 2 years. Seeing each other has been difficult because of our work schedules (he works away 2 weeks out of 5), schedules with the kids and the distance. He is quite content with what we are doing but I want more. He values the independence he has, and the ability to do what he wants when he wants, but enjoys the time we spend together as well.
I?m fed up with not seeing so much of him, and having separate lives. I have offered to move to where he lives (which is considerable sacrifice for me, but not the topic of my post) and more or less given him an ultimatum that we either live together or I do not want to continue as I get so frustrated not seeing him, and the ?separate lives? that we lead. I see as what we are doing as being unsustainable not just in the long term, but the thought of doing it for the next year bugs me (like spending so much time apart, spending Xmas?s, birthdays alone and just generally not having someone around when you want them). I feel he should know what he wants, and how he feels after 2 years.
I know he?s not keen to live with anyone else. His divorce was messy (wife run off with someone else) and he does seem to enjoy the freedom he now has. However, if he cannot commit to this now, or have a firm plan for the future then I?m prepared to walk (despite how I feel about him....)
The question is........am I being unreasonable?
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Santa70 · 06/08/2011 16:50
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