AIBU about the school administrator?

[frivolous]

I have name changed for this as not wanting to "out" myself.

The school administrator has 2 children at school. Whenever there is a school event at which her children are taking part in (sports day, assemblies, trips) she always attends. If it's an assembly she will sit on the front row recording events- surely if she should be working, she should be in the office or doing her general duties? I feel there is nothing wrong with her sneaking in at the back and watching for a short while but getting a "prime" spot.
Also at the end of school, the 2 children sit in reception and wait for her to finish.

Is this normal? Does this happen at every school and I should just suck it up and accept it?

[squeakytoy]

And this affects you how exactly?

[LyingWitchInTheWardrobe2726]

She has an enviable advantage, frivolous, a most definite 'perk', but she's not doing anything untoward and obviously has the agreement of whoever it is at the school. You're not unreasonable to be envious of her arrangement but you''d be out of line to 'complain' about it.

[LIZS]

Not sure what your issue is ? Maybe she makes up the time but you won't necessarily know about it, the terms of her contract or if she has to attend INSET or attend during holidays.

[wakeupandsmellthecoffee]

Why are you so bothered about it . If you are not her boss why should it concern you . I would be thinking how lucky she is to be able to do this . You sound a bit mean really .

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[lawnimp]

dear lord give the woman a break!

[GandTiceandaslice]

YABU.
She's watching her children.

[handsomeharry]

I don't really understand what the problem is or what you have to 'suck up'?

[pozzled]

She has almost certainly been given this flexibility by the HT on the basis that she still does the same hours. Maybe the days when she attends a school play she has a shorter lunch break. Or whatever.

Either way, it's not your business is it?

[basingstoke]

I think you should write a 'formal complaint' and copy in the chair of governors and LEA.

And OFSTED.

[wakeupandsmellthecoffee]

snort basingstoke .

[AnansiGirl]

You sound like a very unpleasant and malicious person.
I work with teachers whose children attend the same school, the children are around after school whilst the parent works, the parent gets to watch them do activities, and we cover for each other if something special is happening to enable a parent to see their child. It has been normal in every school I've worked in.
If she's working efficiently, managing her job and her children, then she is being a good parent and a good worker. She may be doing extra admin out of hours to make up.

[LoveBeingAtHomeOnMyOwn]

And the problem is?

[saltyair]

Surely lots of people who go watch their children in school plays do whilst they 'should' be at work...

[breatheslowly]

I imagine that many of the parents at these events are there in work hours. Perhaps you could stand at the entrance and turn away those you know have jobs.

[AnansiGirl]

'I have name changed for this as not wanting to "out" myself.'

I'm not surprised, it is not a post to be proud of.

[fivegomadindorset]

Where should you be when you are watching your DC's?

[frivolous]

blimey, all I really wanted to know if it was normal and I am being made out to be mean and malicious.
My child is in nursery of the school and am not that familar with the "system" of school.
Another mother asked me and I thought good old mn may help - gosh didnt know it was so controversial; however accept my AIBU was negatviely worded.

[worraliberty]

She's a working parent who has been given time off to attend an event at her child's school...just like thousands of other parents often are.

How do you know she didn't work through her lunch/stay late after school to make the time up anyway?

[CupcakesandTwunting]

"I think you should write a 'formal complaint' and copy in the chair of governors and LEA.

And OFSTED."

And the Prime Minister.

Maybe cc/ The Queen too.

And The Pope.

[lesley33]

I give staff time off to attend school plays, etc. They make the time up, so it really makes no difference to me. It could be the same for this administrator. I don't see a problem with her children waiting for her afterschool if they are not causing a problem.

saltyair - Bit shocked though that you think most people who attend a school play should be at work. Everywhere I have ever worked, people make up their hours if they attend a school event.

[activate]

jealousy is one of the seven deadly sins

I'm pretty sure that this flexibility is part of the reason she takes the job

school admin staff run the school (parents should remember that many of them have more power than heads ) and get paid little

[wakeupandsmellthecoffee]

And still the question Im asking is what the dickens has it got to do with you . ? you said .
I feel there is nothing wrong with her sneaking in at the back and watching for a short while but getting a "prime" spot

[AnansiGirl]

You first pot sounded like the beginning of a whisper campaign in the playground, what is there for you to resent and 'have to suck up and accept'?
She's a parent juggling responsibilities, and the comment
'surely if she should be working, she should be in the office or doing her general duties' sounds very narrow-minded. If her bosses don't have a problem with it, why should a customer?