Spoilt by Grandparents

[bevelino]

My 13 year old dd is spoilt by her grandparents who shower her with gifts and whatever else she asks for. They also don't mind her dropping by their house unannounced for food, money, lifts to school, watch television or just simply to lie down. She works hard at school and has lots of friends. She also receives plenty of love and attention at home, but seems totally unfazed by this behaviour saying that it is between her and her grandparents. We have 3 younger dd's who now say they want to go live with their grandparents. Will dd's grow out of it?

[bubblesincoffee]

Is the problem that you feel the gp's are providing something you are not and that she prefers to be there?

I think I'd have a word ith the GP's about giving her money, but I'm not sure I see the problem tbh.

Are these your parents or her Dad's?

[thisisyesterday]

not sure i see the problem tbh... why would they want to, or need to, grow out of it?

they enjoy spending time with their grandparents, and their grandparents like to treat them.... it sounds like a GOOD thing to me!

[hellymelly]

Lucky lucky her.Isn't that what Grandparents are supposed to do? For many reasons my dds will never have that and I wish they did.

[reelingintheyears]

With everyone else...she's lucky to have GPs close by.

Of course they all can't go and live with the GPs but they are lucky..i also wish mine had had GPs nearby.

Good GPs should be treasured.

[muddyangels123nomoreHPforme]

Sounds like my PIL.

My DS1 who is now living uni/work 30 miles from them often gets picked up by the GP and taken to theirs for sunday lunch/food parcels/money & the list goes on.

DS2 will stay with them over the holidays and he gets what he wants,he never asks for anything but always comes back fron theirs looking like it's been Christmas.

They send money for DD & she will also stay with then if i go, & will end up with more toys/games.

If one of the DC get anything for any reason ( birthday/school trip etc..), they all get something.

My DC are their only DGC.

Yep, they spoil them,i have said over the years it's OTT, but i'm told not to hurt their feelings and they can spend what they like on their DGC.(roll eyes).