Ok, this is a 'who is being unreasonable?'
My Dsis has just called from work to tell me that she is fuming with ex for letting their 7 and 8 yr old boys go to the park alone. He has them for the day because she is working. He normally has them overnight every other Saturday.
The park is next to a block of maisonettes where he lives. He lives with his mum, dad and brother and his 'new' girlfriend (of 4 years) is visiting with their baby. The children cannot be seen from the windows.
Dsis has told him that the kids are too young to be playing out unsupervised, and she wants him (or his girlfriend or family) to go down and watch them or she wants them indoors. She doesn't let them play out at home. I don't let mine play out either. We live in London in an area that many would call rough.
Ex has said that his family and girlfriend are in agreement with him that the children should be allowed to play in the park unsupervised. The kids are loving the freedom they are getting.
Who gets to decide? My idea of shared parenting (whether together or separated) is that you make decisions together, compromising and respecting each others opinions. It is not about each parent making up their own rules, so they contradict each other and confuse the kids. I don't think that Dsis should be laying down the law (ex doesn't have PR but they are both their parents!) but ex shouldn't disregard her concerns and do what he likes!
So, who is being unreasonable?
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happy2bhomely · 22/07/2011 18:16
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