To be thoroughly hacked off with pregnancy?

[Mare11bp]

Yes I know it's a gift...please don't flame me.

Three weeks to go until c-section, I am very small so the extra 2.5 stone is difficult. One week of work left to go but I am shattered partly cos I was on feet all day yesterday.

I do get help from DP at home, so I can't complain on that score. But have my very energetic DS on my own for next three days as DP working. Don't want to ask family too much, they have helped out a bit last few weeks with DS.

Totally fed up with back ache and my house looks like a bloody tip. garden needs attention but struggling to do it. DP not keen on a cleaner or someone to help with the garden. Cant get on the floor to play with DS, too uncomfortable.

Fed up in short with feeling knackered all the time and sitting on the sofa unable to do much like a spare part. Feel a right waste of space.

Sorry I am ranting. AIBU to put my son into nursery for extra half day Monday? AIBU to rant about being pregnant?

[AuntiePickleBottom]

yanbu...moan away.

[valiumredhead]

YANBU and put your ds into nursery for the extra half day if it helps :)

[AgentZigzag]

Fuck, YANBU!

Getting up off the sofa was just such an effort, I couldn't wait to offload be able to put the baby down for a while.

Don't worry about the housework/garden, I've only just stopped thinking of DD2 as an excuse not to do the gardening 18 months on

Ask your family to help with DS, this is the time you need to ask because you won't be able to get rid of them once you've got a gorgeous newborn in the house.

[ledkr]

Yes its vile,ive done it 5 flipping times and all equally as vile,my sis used to preach on about it being a gift and me having it easy,she is now crashed on her sofa wioth terrible morning sickness and headaches and ringing me to moan every few hrs,id tell her she's got it easy but i love her too much

[ledkr]

Never feel bad about sitting on the sofa,my dd is 5 months and one seat is definately got a ledkrs arse dent in it.

[Southernisle]

YABU - you've been pregnant once you know what you were getting in to, stop whinging about it.

I've temporarily blocked a number of friends status updates on FB at the moment, because all they do is moan about being pregnant - I would dearly love another child it is not going to happen, and listening to someone whinge about being pregnant really knarks.

Sitting on the sofa doing bugger all no issue with, but whinging about being pregnant yes you are.

[Mare11bp]

Fair enough Southern point taken.

[valiumredhead]

Show me someone who DOESN'T moan in the last few weeks of pregnancy and I will show you a liar

[lovesicecream]

Yanbu pg can suck!

[Olivetti]

That's really harsh, Southern. I am sorry about your situation, but that in itself doesn't mean OP is being unreasonable. Sounds as thought you are having a tough time, OP, don't blame you for moaning at all.

[TadlowDogIncident]

YANBU, I hated it. Why does your DP not want a cleaner/someone to help with the garden?

[lisianthus]

Yanbu x5

[HeidiKat]

YANBU, the last few weeks of pregnancy can be very uncomfortable and even painful at times, I couldn't even put my own socks on without puffing like a steam train.

As for "you know what you were getting into" I would imagine that a second pregnancy with a small child in the house to deal with is much harder than a first pregnancy where you can spend your last few weeks lazing around and catnapping as and when you please as I did when pregnant with DD, I am under no illusion that I won't be able to do the same the next time but it doesn't mean I don't want a second DC.

[Olivetti]

Agreed, HeidiKat! I have one DD, and I found the last few weeks of pregnancy really hard - I had the entire house to myself and plenty of pre-maternity leave cash!! If we do have another, I imagine it will be a whole different kettle of fish.

[Quenelle]

YANBU

But would it be better money spent to get a cleaner in for half a day than to put DS in nursery? That way you don't have to do the housework.

Or better still, do both

Disclaimer: I have no idea how much cleaners or nurseries cost.

[Mare11bp]

Tadlow DP says he will do it, but even he doesn't have time to do it all. Think he doesn't actually like strangers in the house.

Heildi you are dead right about the socks!!

Quenelle you are right, tho the occasional time we have put DS in nursery for an extra day or half day the nursery most of the time have forgotten to charge us the additional fees

[joric]

YANBU!
I am massive ( in non pregnant state :) ) and actually got smaller during pregnancy apart from a little bump in front- I could carry it easily and felt v sorry for my petite friends who had tummys bigger than the rest of them - so you have my sympathies because it must be v uncomfortable.
If you can, get a cleaner or some kind friends/ relatives in for 2/3 hours before going into hosp. You can be in when they come- until then, let it all pile up!!!

[emmanumber3]

I am almost 36 weeks & have had enough now too! I know I'm lucky to be able to be 36 weeks pregnant but it doesn't stop me wishing I could bend over to pick things up, get up off the sofa like a normal person or any of the other things I can no longer manage!

[Dozer]

Yabu, sorry. Hate pregnancy moaning.

[Helenfellows32]

YANBU. I'm 38 weeks and it is really tough.

I flew through my first pregnancy and this one has been a complete mare. Barely keeping up with housework end looking after ds. I feel your pain

Any one who thinks YABU needs to understand its not the same for every one

[MrsVidic]

yanbu- im 38+2 and late pregnancy with toddler is not for the faint hearted. I think as parents we all find different stages the hardest- for me I sail through the new born sleep deprivation and love the toddler years but really struggle with pregnancy.

[BikeRunSki]

YANBU and I'm only 26 weeks, with loony nearly-3 year old. And I am full of cold and exhausted. And I still feel sick.

[Helzapoppin]

YANBU and you've made me feel better for my constant whinging too. I'm 37 weeks, have been huge for what seems like months and have every minor pregnancy complaint known to medical science (carpal tunnel syndrome does not feel minor when it strikes at 2 in the morning!).
DD and I don't manage to do too much at the moment (although went to soft play in a moment of madness this morning!). We bake a lot. Mostly so that we can eat cake while watching Rastamouse. I've lost count of the social engagements we've cancelled/turned down.
Sorry to hijak your whinge....best of luck and don't feel bad about asking for help, people like to help :)

[GwendolineMaryLacey]

YANBU, whinge away. No points for being a martyr even though some people clearly think you should be...

[spookshowangel]

i am only on week 10 and i feel like death this is my 4th and you always kind of forget how horrible it is. i perk up a bit in the middle and then its the downward spiral to thinking of every fucking thing you can to get the fucking thing out of you.
anyone who says pregnancy is a gift can kiss my ever increasing ass. babys are the gift pregnancy is the price you have to pay and it is steep, so moan away and ignore any one who tells you different they dont have to listen empathyless harpies.