I am writing a family memoir and have recently been on a jaunt to dig up some old ancestors. While writing up my findings I have come across a dilemma. Three of my forebears might have committed crimes, but there is no proof of anything.
I would appreciate your thoughts on whether I should confide my suspicions to future generations, thus damaging the memory of these family members, or just whitewash it all out?
To make it a bit clearer: one great grandfather courted a girl of 13 when he was in his late twenties (19th century); another was openly very fond of little girls and his behaviour definitely went beyond the bounds of what would be acceptable nowadays, although he did not to my knowledge actually harm anyone. Finally, another grandfather went to Thailand where we think he had sex with a very young girl and died of AIDS shortly afterwards.
The children of the last two are still alive, but I don't need to show them the memoir as it is really for my grandchildren.
Please tell me what you think. (I don't want them to come back and haunt me, either!)
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AIBU?
To write about suspected abusive behaviour when the alleged perpetrators are dead in a family chronicle?
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Mellowfruitfulness · 17/07/2011 17:15
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