DD2 is three and doesn't eat much. Shes fine though...very healthy and not a skinny one or anything.
Wdont' worry much at all....I do think that we need to get her to eat more though as at school she's going to need to eat her lunch etc....she WILL eat if DH spoon feeds her....she likes to regress in many things...enjoys being a "baby".
dh thinks it's fine to spoon feed her sometimes as "at least she eats"
My thinking is that she'll eat when she's hungry and he shouldn't be encouraging her to be fed by us.
She does not need to be spoon fed. She might like to be spoon fed. If giving her what she wants stops her gaining the skills to eat or gives her 'food issues', it's going to be a problem. Schools don't mind if children don't have reading/writing/counting skills when they start school. They do rather like children to have social skills, like being able to put on their shoes and coats, use the toilets, and be able to feed themselves.
My dd 4.5 years (possible ASD) is spoon fed as she will quite happily eat nothing all day and if she doesent like what's on offer she will not eat, unless I spoon it in. She can eat independently if she wants, but I feel happy knowing that she has a full tummy. Believe it or not she is an independent eater at pre school. I was spoon fed occasionally by my mum until I was 7 , I certainly do not want to be spoon fed now or when I was a teen thanks very much. Chill.!