I split with my sons father 2 months ago, we were together just shy of 2 years. Since we split he has been through a whole spectrum of emotions and behaviors ranging from pure rage to absolute devastation. It's 2 months on and the weeks have come & gone where he has had barely any contact & where he has had contact it is never overnight & usually 3hrs at a time x 2 a week, if that, and it's always somehow my fault for making it difficult or 'too painful' & I end up getting blamed for him not seeing our son as much as he should, our boy is 11 months old.
Anyway I've recently been made aware of an oppurtunity to move 120 miles away with my son, about a 2 hour drive, for a better life out of the city, a decent job (as opposed to being on benefits now which is not something I wanted to stay doing, and I am only doing due to recent change in personal circumstances as a temporary measure).
My question is more of a legal one than a moral one, I realise my ex will need time to establish a relationship/routine of his own with our son, but I know in my heart of hearts our 11 month old will be as happy if not happier in our new life away from here. I would never try & make it difficult for the ex to see his boy, and would happily drive 1/2 way or do 1/2 the journeys in their entirety or more, I don't wish to stop him seeing his son at all but he shows barely any interest now, so why should I stick around just for him in case he changes his mind and decides to grow up?
I wouldn't be moving for at least 3 months yet & my famly is mainly here so would be moving away from them but they don't have a huge amount to do with son anyway.
My issue is, legally speaking, can I move 120 miles away with my son? It will still be within same country/England. I will travel with son for visits if need be & ex has not had him overnight once, nor has showed a desire to whatsoever.
I am a bit confused by this 'parental responsibility' issue & how it can work in exes favour if he decides to kick off.
any help, hugley appreciated!!
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to move 2 hours away with son when father has hugely unstructured contact
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NicolaElize · 16/07/2011 00:31
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