I've been estranged from my father for the past six years. Before that we had a very fractured relationship. My parents split up when I was 2 because of his violence towards her. I had little to do with him until I was 10 and he was with a new partner and appeared to be relatively stable, I moved in with them for six awful years, leaving home on my 16th birthday and having very little contact at all with him for most of my 20's. Here's the thing, he is a violent man who has subjected every woman in his life to bullying and violence. BUT, he can also be lovely and charming and loving. We tried to have a relationship of sorts a few years ago but it broke down because of his refusal to acknowledge his problems. In the meantime, I've had a child he knows nothing about. My aunts have been in touch recently and I met up with one of them recently. She knows why I don't see him but is also gently suggesting I meet up with him again. I don't know what to do. I feel sad about it but cannot see how I can form a meaningful relationship with such a damaged person.
What would you do?
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litlady · 14/07/2011 15:13
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