BIL moved away to live with FIL and his new wife back last year. He is going into the army and wanted work to tide him over until he starts. He did have a job locally btw, which confuses me? His DS (2) lives with his mum about 5 mins walk from me. He has only been down to visit maybe 5 times since he moved (before christmas) and his ex has told him that unless he visits more often he isnt allowed to have his DS overnight, which he agreed to. However I now think that he agreed thinking he can basically live here whenever hes visiting...
The last two times he visited he stayed here. Once for nearly a week, and once for a weekend, with about a month in between (and the last time was about a month ago). He is a bit of a nightmare guest, for instance last time he went out with his friends and got back at about 4am (DH was working nights at the time, and did tell him that he was taking the piss), and he also is very obvious about the fact he is cheating on his girlfriend while hes here. Apart from that, he has the hygiene and cleanliness of a teenager! And he sleeps with the TV on!!
But thats not the problem. The problem is, this isnt his home. He needs to make some proper arrangements to see his son, not doss on my living room floor with him. And I dont mind him staying here sometimes, after all DH doesnt see him much any more, but I cant help but feel that three times in a row is taking the piss a little. DH thinks I'm being overly harsh and says he'd like him to stay again. I've told him that if he wont tell him no, I will, and I wont be so nice about it. But AIBU?
For now, DH has told him that we're out Saturday night so can he see if he can stay somewhere else. AI also BU to want DH to be a little more honest? I dont care if he blames me for it, I dont mind being the evil one if someone has to be!!
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AIBU to tell DH that I dont want BIL to stay this weekend
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MassagesDeclinedByNetmums · 05/07/2011 22:47
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