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to find it interfering and even slightly sinister that my childminder wants to communicate with the school?

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parakeet · 04/07/2011 14:43

She's given me a (sealed) envelope, asking me to give it to my child's teacher. It has a note (to me) on the back saying she'd like to know about their lesson plans.

I asked my childminder what it was all about and she said Ofsted had told her to do it, so she can coordinate educational activities with the school. My (five-year-old) child is normally only with my childminder for two hours a day, two days a week (apart from school holidays). So I'm not really expecting my childminder to do anything educational with her, just pick her up after school, give her tea and let her wind down after school.

Maybe I'm being paranoid, but I don't see the need for other professionals to be bypassing me to communicate about my child. She doesn't have any SN. The teacher gives parents weekly sheets giving info about what they're doing that week and I offered to give a copy to the childminder each week, but no, she wants the teacher's lesson plans. I have a feeling the teacher won't particularly want to do this either, or is this standard?

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Lucyinthepie · 04/07/2011 14:45

Of course it isn't standard. Have you opened the envelope?

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BitOfFun · 04/07/2011 14:46

She sounds bonkers.

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eurochick · 04/07/2011 14:48

I'd definitely open the envelope...

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bubblesincoffee · 04/07/2011 14:48

It seems a bit extreme, but if she wants to be able to enhance the ducation that your child is getting at school, surely that's a good thing?

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MissPenteuth · 04/07/2011 14:49

Sounds odd. You could open it, read it, and then put it in a new envelope?

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itisnearlysummer · 04/07/2011 14:50

I'd open too I think.

I can pretty much guarantee the teacher won't be handing over weekly plans to your childminder!

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Mumwithadragontattoo · 04/07/2011 14:50

I wouldn't deliver anything to the school which I didn't know the contents of. I think you need to open the envelope. If it is as she describes and you are willing for a certain amount of coordination between the school and childminder then you can take it in in another envelope. If it is about anything else then you'll have to raise it with the childminder.

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SarahStratton · 04/07/2011 14:51

What does it say inside?

No way would I hand that over, my 2 were with childminders on and off for a bit and I never heard of anything like that. How bizarre of her.

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RitaMorgan · 04/07/2011 14:52

Yes, it's an Ofsted thing - all providers are supposed to communicate with other providers about children covered by the EYFS.

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Mabelface · 04/07/2011 14:52

Sounds like she wants to enhance and build on what the teacher is doing for EYFS. It's not unheard of for nurseries and childminders to liaise in this way with school.

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AmazingBouncingFerret · 04/07/2011 14:52

Oh god you need to open it now!
You can't just start a thread on mumsnet about an unopened intriguing letter and leave us hanging! Wink

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itisnearlysummer · 04/07/2011 14:53

But surely the weekly overview would be sufficient if she wants to keep her own planning relevant!

I still can't see the teacher handing over her weekly planning!

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Terraviva · 04/07/2011 14:53

Whoa! That sounds completely mental... Bonkers... Red flags a-waving!

Open the envelope.

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itisnearlysummer · 04/07/2011 14:53

Open the letter now and tell us what it says!

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parakeet · 04/07/2011 14:54

Oh Blimey, I was going to meekly hand it over but now I'm tempted to look inside. From what she said it sounded like this was absolutely standard and a requirement from Ofsted.

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DogsBestFriend · 04/07/2011 14:54

I'd open the envelope, read the contents, destroy/keep as apt depending on how mad/offensive/worrying it is and then find another CM because this one sounds barking.

Your child's education is YOUR affair, not the CMs and the CM is in YOUR employ. It is not for her to exclude you from matters regarding your child and it is not for you to be her bloody postwoman either.

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iMemoo · 04/07/2011 14:54

Hmm very bonkers.

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itisnearlysummer · 04/07/2011 14:55

Tbh, I wouldn't hand something to the teacher like this without reading it first. This is your child. She isn't owned by the school/childminder!

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firsttimer84 · 04/07/2011 14:55

Bizarre! Plus do the teachers really have time to do this? Imagine if they had to do lesson plans for every pupil who was being childminded.

I wouldn't want my child doing more educational stuff after school if they were 5, they need to play and be children for a bit before homework kicks in. (IMO)

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RitaMorgan · 04/07/2011 14:55

I don't think it's bonkers at all - Ofsted have told her she's supposed to share information and that's what she's doing. Maybe she isn't going about it the right way but Ofsted have a tendency to tell providers what to do but not how.

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mo3d · 04/07/2011 14:57

Open the envelope!

If you stick it back down your childminder will none the wiser and the teacher won't know that the childminder didn't open it and seal it again before giving it to you

It's about your child. Why wasn't the cm more specific? Or even let you read it before she got you to be her postie?

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itisnearlysummer · 04/07/2011 14:58

I think she should be satisfied with the weekly overview that the parents get. After all, the reasons the parents get it is so that they can support their children's learning at home. e.g. if they've been learning about capacity, you can ask your child to fill a bottle half full etc.

I'll say it again, the teacher will not be handing over her planning!

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TwistAndShout · 04/07/2011 14:59

It's just a way of sharing information between Early Years providers. It IS a requirement of Ofsted that information is shared. You might not like the way she has gone about it but it's ceratinly not sinister!

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itisnearlysummer · 04/07/2011 14:59

Have you opened it yet?!

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RitaMorgan · 04/07/2011 15:00

I feel sorry for the childminder! I doubt she wants the extra hassle of school lesson plans, she just feels that's what Ofsted want.

Just tell her you're not happy about this and she'll have to refer back to Ofsted.

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