DD is 16 - gorgeous, clever, just finished her GCSE's. Have been split with her dad for over 8 years. (He was a compulsive liar, big drinker, serial shagger etc). He got remarried maybe 5 or 6 years ago to a lovely woman, does a lot for charity etc. Although she favours her own DC's (who are all older than DD and before becoming independent lived with their father) over DD, has always tried hard to be pleasant to her.
Ex has always been unreliable and has had to be bullied into seeing DD and has let her down on numerous occasions, often blaming his wife and making out that she is causing problems. This weekend he is supposed to be taking DD to her prom. She wanted him to, he has a nice car, I'm collecting her. He has been making various noises about not being able to take her, due to his wife being unhappy about it, as it is her daughter's birthday.
So DD tonight called her Dad, got SM, and decided to ask about the prom. SM broke down, said she didn't want him to drive as he is drinking heavily again, will drive drunk, is lying to SM all the time, she can't cope, has tried everything etc etc. Basically unloading a lot of adult stuff on DD, about her own Dad.
DD was polite, supportive as she could be, was a bit down and quiet afterwards. We just went to back up plan for prom (as he can't be relied upon we always have a plan B).
What should I be doing in this situation? Obviosly my first priority is DD, but do feel sorry for SM...oh and the daughter's birthday is not for another 2 weeks.
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To have no clue what to do about ex's new wife 'unloading' her problems on DD...
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balia · 30/06/2011 22:41
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