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Disagreement with a friend

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Ambers123 · 26/06/2011 08:04

Hi I had a disagreement with a friend , who was in the wrong and needed a few things pointed out to her in a nice way, she was in total denail over it all, but eventually apologised albiet grudgingly, we then had a night out with alot of other woman, she sat with another friend of mine who just drew me daggers the whole night, I did not speak to them and have not told anyone else of this argument but am now wary of the other girl , and wondering what is the best way to play it when we do meet up, any ideas?

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savoycabbage · 26/06/2011 08:06

Well, she is going to talk about it I would say. It's human nature. She will be telling her side to people and they will be agreeing with what she says.

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PonceyMcPonce · 26/06/2011 08:10

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Ambers123 · 26/06/2011 08:12

no not on night out we work together so it was at our place of work and she was bang out of order, sorry for confusion.

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PonceyMcPonce · 26/06/2011 08:14

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clam · 26/06/2011 08:17

Who says she was in the wrong? You? Or did she agree and apologise?

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Reality · 26/06/2011 08:19

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Ambers123 · 26/06/2011 08:21

she was in the wrong has been targeting a few other people and she apoligised to me personally , i have never had to address this kind of conflict at work before and found it extremely difficult because we have been friends for 4 years so i do not do it lightly.That is the hard part i was reallly fond of her but nhse has changed so much like a diffferent person and everyone is talking and seeing her in a bad light that is what i told her , was trying to help her.

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clam · 26/06/2011 08:23

Hmm. Sounds like she wasn't that ok with your pep talk after all!

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Ambers123 · 26/06/2011 08:23

She has turned into a control freak, has been ranting at her work colleagues and where we work it is supposed to be team work, no one is the boss.

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Ambers123 · 26/06/2011 08:24

Yes I agree but she had bullied someone else she tried it on me she needed stopping as she was way out of line.

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clam · 26/06/2011 08:40

Well, if she has changed into a person who behaves like that, then she was never going to "hear" your message. If you've tried to point out, nicely, that there's a problem, and she's now kicking off to other people about it, then you just have to back off I think. While she's behaving like this is it any great loss?

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Ambers123 · 26/06/2011 08:44

No you are right , just makes me feel used by her that is all , and awkard because we work in same place,i cant stand stuck up spoilt woman , but thanks for your advice appreciate it.