in lending my ex my car all the time? Iam depriving my daughter apparently

[DutchGirly]

In the past I have lent my ex my car on a daily basis.

I recently found he took some funds to partly pay for his holiday via our family business without my knowledge as a business expense whilst he was visiting his family abroad. He will have to pay this back. I feel he has stolen and breached my trust so I am not willing to lend my car anymore.

He now accuses me of depriving our daughter as he can't take her anywhere by car, apparently he does not have the funds to buy his own car. I don't see why I have to sub him, he is my ex and is responsible for providing his own transport. We live in London and he lives 200 m from a train station and there are plenty of buses, he could almost walk everywhere.

He could ask his family for money as they're millionaires but apparently that is an unreasonable favour to ask from his family Not sure why he thinks it is reasonable for me to provide transport for him though.

What do you think? My partner thinks I am a mug for lending my car in the first place.

[JustShootMeAlready]

Why the hell are you giving him use of your car?

Tell him to take a hike or buy his own car! I agree with your dp, I think you are being a bit of a mug!

[needanewname]

I agree with your partner

[fgaaagh]

YANBU.

he's an adult, he needs to take responsibility of his own transportation needs.

it doesn't even sound like he will be that much affected if he has stations just a few hundred meters away/buses etc.

I think he's been taking the piss all along and now the reality of having to fund his own transport costs / find alternative methods of getting around - well, it's none of your business. Not your problem.

If he struggles to take DCs anywhere, he just needs to think up a few solutions and stop being so lazy. I'm pretty sure there are parents in his area without their own car who (gasp) manage just fine.

[EricNorthmansMistress]

Yes, you are a mug.

[saffy85]

Yep, you're a mug. He'll manage. I don't live in London and don't drive and I still manage to take my DD out and about. It is do-able. Tell your ex to get a grip and stop making excuses. No one should be bailing him out including his family.

[littleducks]

Tell him about streetcar

[ChazsBrilliantAttitude]

We live in London, we have a car and I almost never use it when I take the kids out because parking is such a nightmare. Tell him to do what the rest of us do: buy a travelcard and take the bus!

I don't think you are a mug but I do think you are too nice for your own good.