Can anyone out there help me; my daughter was attacked by a man who tore the cartlidge in her wrist leaving her in a lot of pain and virtually unable to use her right hand. She has had one operation but another MRI has found that this didnt work and explains why her pain and disabilty hasnt gone away. The things is she is not 5 or 10 years old but 27 and had trained as a doctor, she has not been able to work since it happened last year and the hospital where it happened is trying to 'cover it up'. She may lose her job altogether and be left with pain & unable to compete as a rower or work as she trained ever again. The difficulty I have is that as her mother it doesnt matter how old she is i am just as devastated as if she was 1 , 5 or 10 years old, however she is expecting me to look after her and be there 24 hours a day with support and as she puts it, 'if you are my mother and love me, you will be my counsellor'. I know I will look after her when she has a second operation but how do i cope with supporting her emotionally as im absolutely upset and hurt myself, she is till my baby but I want her to be independant again. She says she cannot have the second operation unless i can be there all the time for her, but im so drained and find that ultimaton hurtfull and yet I wish I could give her all the support she wants. has anyone got any advice? Please? I dont work but am about to start a phD which is going to be impossible to do from home now. Am I being selfish?
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