to think he probably should have told his kids and ex

[cannydoit]

been together 9 months give or take, he has met my kids, they get on really well. we have even been on holiday together to meet my family in ireland (his idea).
i was very strict about him not meeting the kids as didnt want anyone that wasn't serious in their lives, but when i knew it was it was fine, he is building a relationship with them and i want the same opportunity to do that with his kids, but he says he doesn't want to till his divorcee come through in case his ex becomes difficult about custody.
i can see his point and that is why i haven't said ant thing to him but i feel that the longer we leave and the closer he gets to my kids when we finally do all get together if ever wont it be odd for them that he has a relationship with mine and we dont know them at all?
i have met them as daddy's friend in the park, i just feel that he is in every part of my life and i am being left out of such a big part of his. so am i bu or totally over thinking it?

[ooohyouareawfulbutilikeyou]

do you live together

[cannydoit]

nope but he is here every night he doesn't have his kids pretty much.

[cannydoit]

[maddy68]

I can see his point TBH, His kids - his choice how he deals with it

[cannydoit]

yeah maddy thats why i havent said anything to him, but how long do you wait for this kind of thing before it becomes i dont know, odd or a problem or shows that they are not in the same place as you, i dont know.