Ok I better explain it properly now I have semi calmed down.
D - my cousin lived in manchester with her ds and mum, they had been living there for 4 yrs when they decided to make contact wanting to come back to london. At the time I had been back living with my mum after my dads death.
I got a 3 bedroom private flat so that her and her son would be able to live with me. Her mum went to my mums. Everything was running smoothly until I quietly had a word with her about her DS who was very obviously autistic. I did everything for her right down to finding her DS a school and filling the forms in. To the point that he started calling me mummy and her D, I always corrected him.
The day she moved in with me she took up with a man who was her ex from before she moved to manchester. The second day in London she left her DS with me for 13 hours so she could spend it with this man. Her mum went mental as I had never met my young cousin until the day before, he was then 4.
This man was brought to our home on many occassions and stayed over much to my disaproval however I tried to be understanding. I was at the time married so could understand why she would feel lonely.
She moved in in the September, in the November we went out her and I, leaving my husband and her b'f looking after the boys. When I came home my H said "J shouted at DS tonight, But I dealt with it" so I left it at that.
In the January DS got in trouble at school at when I was talking to him (he was 5 at the time) he told me that J had grabbed his willy and squeezed it.
I called my cousin up and made her meet me, I told her what had happened and that he was not welcome in my home again. I then went to the police, who had no doubt as to DS telling the truth. Sadly they hit a brick wall when it came to interviewing him as he had a melt down and wouldn't leave my side. Back then we put it down to fear and tried to coax him into giving the statement. It never happened. She walked out and I vowed to have nothing else to do with her ever which I didn't until this.
Roll on to last year when YOT were involved with DS to keep him on the straight and narrow, (here I make an admission and will be embarrassed) basically DS being 11 had been talking with others in school and one of them had given him a list of porn sites, so him being naturally curious looked at them and freaked (along with me) when he discovered one was child porn and the other was urinating. He was in a terrible state and told YOT, who the referred to SS just because they had to. There was never any doubt that DS had not intentionally typed in that site and not known what it was. He had no idea, his reaction afterwards told me that. SS, closed the case within weeks having spoken to DS, DP, DS2, and myself together and seperatly. However the social worker has stayed in touch to help me get assistance with DS1's aspergers.
Anyway this is why I am so furious because they should make sure documents like this are safe gaurded and not in the wrong hands.
I do need to make a complaint as this is a serious matter but it is also very close to me heart obviously as it involves my family.
I don't know that she is not with this man anymore and now I am concerned that she will know where I live etc.