I was widowed just over 2 years ago when my husband was killed in a motorbike accident. I have one daughter who is now 15 and we have a generally good relationship - usual teenage angst apart.
Several months ago I started seeing a man who used to work with me, but has since left and works elsewhere now. He has an 8yo son whom he sees most weekends.
My daughter is really quite anti this man, and although the first few times she met him she was ok with him it seems to have got worse-not better-as time has gone on. By which I mean things like not speaking to him if he is round, or being curt/rude when an answer is expected of her. She says its because he is an 'office boy' (although he is actually a senior manager) and my husband was a carpenter and she feels 'real men' are those who work with their hands and not a pen.
I am totally torn between what to do, the new man is a really lovely, kind, caring man but just because I like him should I also expect my daughter to get on with him too? And if we decided to stay together and make a go of it, which would involve moving in together at some point ahead, we would sell both houses and get a bigger one jointly as neither one is currently big enough for all of us to have space to live comfortable.
I try as hard as I can to consider my daughters feelings, but just where do I draw the line between seeing to her needs and also seeing to mine?
Advice please?
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redwiner · 05/01/2011 10:08
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