Nameghanged for this. They are vile, boastful, cliquey, backstabbing oddballs. Can't go into too much detail or give examples unfortunately, much as I'd like to.
I can't really discuss them with DH (obviously) or others in RL so I'm venting here!
Have to pretend I like them for the sake of tact and equilibrium 
So, anyone else keeping their dislike well hidden?
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To secretly dislike my inlaws
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Articulate · 02/01/2011 21:18
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salsmum ·
02/01/2011 21:23
Articulate....please see my thread @death of MIL and you'll know you are not alone!! I feel your pain xx
Articulate ·
02/01/2011 21:28
Read your thread sal, I don't think you were unreasonable at all!
I'd love to openly dislike mine 
, but DH rather likes them, sadly, and I don't want to hurt him.
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Blatherskite ·
02/01/2011 21:43
I nearly started a very similar thread myself today!
DH loves them (but then they're always nice to DH obviously) and in the main, I try to keep my contempt under wraps. it does come out every now and again though 
They're selfish, greedy, cliquey, racist..and have awful grammar! Ah, that feels better already :)
Articulate ·
02/01/2011 21:46
isore, I love it!!
It's more like silent gestures with mine. When I say something they don't approve of, they smile at me sweetly and then roll their eyes at each other when they think I'm not looking.
They have a lot of in jokes, they seem to
revel in excluding me whilst pretending to include me. All very playground!
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SharkSlayer ·
02/01/2011 21:48
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Blatherskite ·
02/01/2011 21:51
Mine openly refer to me and the BIL's as 'the outsiders' BIL warned me when I got engaged that I would never feel included and he was right.
SIL informed me while drunk on holiday that I was "further inside the circle" because I have given birth to 'Bloods' 
They're just weird
IneedacleanerIamalazyslattern ·
02/01/2011 21:55
isore and I both have the same tactic
Thankfully as much as we do love MIL sometimes he is more than aware of her faults so I can quite openly be pissed off at her point out her flaws to DH.
The problem with my MIL is that she is not horrible just very thoughtless at times but also has a heart of gold at times too.
Maisiethemorningsidecat ·
02/01/2011 22:02
I secretly dislike mine. MIL is quite spoilt, completely disinterested in the DCs (or DH and I), bores me with tales of her innards and speaks before engaging her brain - but she does it all in a cloud of perfume and loveliness, so she gets away with murder. SIL is like Karen's sister in Outnumbered - anyone who's watched the programme will sympathise! BIL is a director of some multinational - very charming but utterly selfish, and used to getting his own way.
Of course, I'm perfect in every way!
Blatherskite ·
02/01/2011 22:02
I have isore. I guess it does a bit. It's more fun to watch, I can tell you that 
They'll organise 'family' meals and only take DH and his 2 sisters. Today, everyone went to see a pantomime - except me and DD. DD is only 12 months so to little to go and one of us had to stay home. Had to be me though, thete is no way they'd have thought it fair that DH should stay home with her.
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Articulate ·
02/01/2011 22:10
Isore..yes, very passive aggressive. I wouldn't give them the satisfaction of confronting them.
I deal with it in my own passive agressive way..I always make their tea strong when they like it weak, spread butter on their toast instead of Flora light (when they're dieting, despite the fact that they're thin!) ditto full fat milk...and loads of other little things! .
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gothelen ·
02/01/2011 22:12
After we went up to visit last Christmas DH's grandma (FILs mother) rang him up and offered to pay for a divorce. Those weren't her exact words, DH couldn't remember them he was so shocked when he grasped the meaning of what she'd said. It was the last straw for me, we had a shitey Christmas up there with them generally with step-cousins-in-law and uncles stirring the pot so I told DH I wouldn't be going up again. I have broken that by seeing them in the summer but it was on the way home from our holidays and DS's 2nd birthday but they're not so bad in the summer, it's when we're all cooped up in houses that there's problems. PIL live in the pocket of FIL's sister and her DH and the grandma in question, I think they're all MAD, esp MIL who has moved from more than 200 miles away from her MIL to less than 200 seconds away from her MIL. When you can roam between their gardens it's not too tricky to get away but in winter you're in the same place all the damn time.
But even with all that going on I am careful not to slag them off because they're DHs family and he loves them but he is all too aware of their faults. (They had his childhood pet dog put down without telling him when we were only 5 minutes up the road and he could have seen him and only mentioned it in passing when they rang to speak to him about something else. I think that was the big eye opener for him.) But it's like my sister is annoying and it's fine for me to bitch about it but if he does it I bristle in indignation.
So at the end of the epic post (I has in law ishoos, what can I say?! 
) YANBU to keep your dislike to yourself.
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