Have name changed as the source of this barny is so ridiculous (and long!)
Some background:
My parents are both divorced, don't have new partners and get on pretty well in smallish doses, therefore this has been the second xmas that my Mum has invited my Dad over for Xmas, and my Nan (Mum's mum) has been kind enough to have him stay at hers (Mum lives in smallish flat now). Think Mum is a bit of a saint and of course does it for mine and my siblings sake, and for his, as he'd have nowhere else to go.
Anyway, Xmas eve, had a lovely day with Dad and siblings whilst Mum was at work (hadn't seen him since April as he lives away), been to the pub for lunch, and then met Mum from work and went home with her (i'm 35 weeks pg so not drinking and was a bit tired). Dad and siblings come back about 6pm, had had a few drinks but not drunk. We all have dinner then settle down to play board games. This is where it gets ridiculous- Dad and brothers KEEP on farting, not just a couple of mildly amusing rippers, but a constant stream of toxic farts that stink out Mum's place so it's unbearable, and find it hilarious. Mum eventually snaps when Dad let rip once more, and said "if you're all going to keep doing this then you can all clear out and bugger off". Dad takes this to be a so-called 'personal attack' (doesn't apologise for farting) and starts getting shirty. Now i've seen many arguments kick off with my parents before, so desparate to difuse the situation, the only thing I say and felt it was fair to back up my mum, was to say to my Dad and brothers as a collective (NOT even aimed solely at Dad) "come on, it IS getting disgusting now and not funny". My Dad then goes absolutely mental at me, gets all red in the face and gets up close to mine and bellows "SHUT UP, just SHUT UP" . He then gets up, storms out and rings a taxi, saying that he's not coming over for Xmas day tomorrow and that he'll drop my Nan off and then drive home. Basically acting like a spoilt brat. We're sat there in shock, and it ends the game and effectively ruins the evening. I'm sat there trying not to cry but don't, as feel I didn't do anything wrong.
Anyway, next day (as I predicted), Dad comes over with Nan, skulks in, no apology to me, and more importantly, no apology to anyone else for ruining the evening, and carries on as if nothing has happened. I'm civil to him for the next couple of days to keep the peace, but spent most of Xmas seething and thinking 'how can everyone else let him get away with this?'
He sends me a text a couple of days ago thanking me for the presents and saying it was good to see me. I, for once, decided NOT to text back and i'm thinking 'fuck you' (he has previous for being a bit of a tosser, but all has been forgiven before).
I don't hold a grudge usually and would let things go, but AIBU not to text back or to want someone toxic and who behaves like that in my life anymore? I'm expecting my first baby and I think this has made me feel more like an adult iyswim (even though i'm 27! ) and that it really is up to me to choose who I have around me, DP and my child? If a friend (or anyone else for that matter) treated me like that, I would expect an apology.
What do you think? AIBU? Sorry, long!
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CherylMolebonkedAshleyVole · 31/12/2010 13:14
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