I'm 33 weeks pg with first LO. OH and I recently went to dad's house (3 hour drive away) for what we thought was going to be a quiet weekend. Stepmum went behind my dad's back and invited no fewer than ten of her relatives for lunch (which my dad had to pay for). When everyone was there my dad was proudly saying that my baby is a little girl and he's excited to be having a granddaughter (his first grandchild). Stepmum's nephew (who is about 50 btw) said, 'ugh, girls are awful, better luck next time' then stepmum's brother and his wife joined in telling me how terrible girls are, then the nephew said 'well of course they abort them in China'. Well I knew I was going to cry so I went upstairs to have a cry by myself to not make a fuss as didn't want to create tension for my dad. OH was working in another room so didn't know all this was going on until he came down for lunch. Stepmum had a massive go at her nephew in front of everyone for upsetting me, I really didn't want her to say anything as didn't want to cause tension. She then shouted at my husband when he asked her where I was saying 'oh for gods sake she's in the bedroom'. My poor dad came up and said it's always like this, she invites people without telling him, then he has to pay for extra food and then gets sidelined by her awful family. They've been married for 25 years so it's not like it's a new thing.
I feel torn between wanting to see my dad and not wanting to see my stepmum and her horrible family. Particularly sensitive as about to have my little baby and obviously want family around me but feel I can't ask my dad to come visit because if he comes on his own she's on the phone every five minutes whingeing that he's not at home and if she does come she upsets my husband or me. Mum also lives 3 hours away and my stepdad is 80 so she doesn't like to leave him. Husband works away a lot and my good friends live a long way away. Can't believe I'm 33 years old still this upset about my parents' divorce :( Very lonely and sad...
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to still be upset about my parents' divorce after 25 years
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cai7weekstogo · 04/12/2010 21:43
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