I apologise in advance because I know this is a rant.
We've recently moved house and I told my dh that he was under no circumstances to invite his parents for Xmas day (they are a nightmare and I don't want to have to put up with them again and it will be the first Christmas we have ever had on our own and it?s hopefully our last as I?ve recently found out I?m pg although we didn?t know this at the time of the invitation issue) however in a moment of wine-fuelled exuberance he invited them over for Christmas and at the time they seemed very excited and said they would let us know.
That was 2.5 months ago and we have heard nothing. I had forbidden him for bringing it up because I don't think you should need to remind someone about something as big as Christmas.
Dh is the eldest of 3 and the middle brother and wife came for lunch last weekend and enquired what we were doing for Xmas. We muttered something non-committal and then my sil asked why we weren?t going to the family Christmas lunch at my in-laws. Er, the one we haven?t been invited to. Apparently they were invited 4 weeks ago.
In the meantime I found out I was pg and dh was desperate to tell our parents so we did tell them on the proviso that they didn?t tell anyone as we felt it was too early and we wanted to tell people when we were ready. Mil then rang 5 days later and said to my dh, in passing, that as it was ?such good news? she had felt that she had to tell dh?s 2 brothers but that it had happened by accident.
As you can imagine we were fuming (admittedly me more so than dh) as it was a secret and more importantly it was OUR secret to tell people not hers! When the middle brother and sil were over I couldn?t help myself but ask when they had been told and they admitted that my mil had called them the day after we told her and had told them on the phone ? not so much ?slipped out? as purposefully telephoned someone!
As a result of all of this I have not been talking to my in-laws for 3 weeks but as far as I can tell they haven?t noticed! They are so thick skinned it has obviously passed them by.
The Christmas thing is bizarre ? the dates don?t work that they would have known about the pg when they organised the Christmas lunch; and we?ve never mentioned a desire for a Christmas on our own.
Anyway, I don?t think I am being unreasonable for being angry that they blabbed our news to dh?s brother and even if I was invited I wouldn?t go to Christmas with them anyway.
Sorry, rant over. Feel free to tell me I'm being unreasonable.
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MissLolita · 23/11/2010 13:44
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