As 'mummy' when talking in reference to our kids?!o be annoyed at DH for constantly referring to the MIL...A

[ladylobster]

Example - photographing DD "mummy will love it if we send her this", one of many!

He certainly doesn't call her mummy in real life, but has a nasty habit of doing in ref to kids when he means granny, she of course would love this, it grated me something bad, if I pull him up on it he thinks pm being fact, surely he knows I'm mummy now, not tge daft old bat! He is a man of course, so he could just be being thick

Do any of your partners do this too?

[ladylobster]

Apologies, I phone and me don't get on, hence lack of sense!

[Showaddywaddy]

Eh?

[Showaddywaddy]

x-posts.

It's like you're trying to tell us something. Is it a code?

Does the bat fly at midnight?

[ladylobster]

Eh indeed! In plain English, he accidently, I think, calls his mother mummy when talking to the babies!

[mamatomany]

He is just being thick ignore him.

[curlymama]

He's being thick, but unless you pull him up on it every time, he will continue to do it, and it will continue to annoy you.

[ChaoticChristmasAngelCrackers]

Just correct him every time he does it. Something like "I think you mean granny." should do it.

[ladylobster]

Things like this don't usually pee me off, but this last occurence of it has got my goat, grown men should not call their mums mummy! Bat or no bat!

[lucky1979]

I would REALLY hate that. If my DH refered to my MIL as "mummy" to my DD then I would have a fit. Even if he said "my mummy will like this" etc, I would find it weird but definitely not just calling her mummy.

Have you told him how weird it is?

[perfumedlife]

Ew Yuk That's just wrong. He will confuse the kids. Who does he refer to you as?

[Tiredmumno1]

Surely he should refer to mil as nanny/gran in front of children

[BusyMissIzzy]

It's probably be by accident. I still occasionally refer to my Dad as 'daddy' when talking to 8mo DD. In fact he does the same (he's more used to being a Dad than a Grandpa). But we correct ourselves straightaway.

[BusyMissIzzy]

*ingore that extraneous 'be' in my 1st sentence. I'm not even on a iPhone, I'm just crap at typing

[ladylobster]

I'm mummy too, hes like a kid with her, she often refers to herself as mummy, and I think he has been brain washed! I will continue to pick him up on it. I said to him that I don't say to dd "lets send daddy some photos" when talking about my dad, he is grandad!

I think its done in error as I genuinely think a lot of the time men don't think or listen come to that

[ShanahansRevenge]

Oh I would hate it too....every time he does it, say "GRANNY NOT MUMMY" it will become less of a habit.

[HecateQueenOfWitches]

Well, you could always be really mean and say

"I am really concerned about you. You seem to have a fixation with your mother as the mother of your children. Do you think this is something that you need help with? It is rather Oedipal..."

[Rockbird]

Oh I seeeeeee. Isn't it confusing for the children? If I tell DD we're going to see daddy then she'd think I meant DH. Even though I'm one of those despicable adults who still calls their parents mummy and daddy, my father is granddad to DD etc.

[ladylobster]

I'm going to throw oedipus at him next time, perhaps that might shut him up!

[diddl]

I´d have to correct him, for the sake of my sanity.

I mean it´s not that hard to distinguish between your wife & mother is it?

Does he do it so often that it´s probably not accidental?

[HecateQueenOfWitches]

If you do, please come back and tell me what he says