Nut free birthday cakes??

[canella]

Its my ds2's birthday (he'll be 2) on sunday and I wanted to take a birhtday cake into his nursery tomorrow but the nursery has recently become nut free - one of the children has a really severe nut allergy but because of confidentiality they wont tell me whether he/she is in my son's room. I obviously woudln't take a cake with any nuts in it but when i looked in asda today nearly every cake said 'may contain traces of nuts'.
How do i get round this? would it be worse to bring something in that i'd made myself - dh quite likes nuts so theres a risk that there would be traces of nuts on the home made stuff - the nursery wont even let the children bring in a bowl of cut apples in the morning in case there is a trace so surely home made cvakes would be worse!
Help!!

[desperatehousewifetoo]

How about packets of chocolate buttons that they can share instead?

My ds usually does this as he has a nut and egg allergy.

You could ask the nursery whether products with 'may contain nut traces' are ok. My ds has them. We only need to avoid food with nuts in the ingredients. However, as you say, some people can't.

It's very good of you to consider this, many people wouldn't

[bagofhammers]

Not really a birthday cake but jaffa cakes are nut free except mini jaffa cakes in blue bags. (mini jaffa cakes in orange pods are ok). I don't know of any nut free large cakes.

[brimfull]

M&S cakes are nut free still I think

They may have a warning now but if you contact them I'm sure they're still safe

I don't get this confidentiality thing-ds is allergic to nuts-surely it's beneficial if people actually know who is allergic.The child will have to deal with telling people soon enough.

And the apple thing is ott imo.

[canella]

got waylaid trying to get kids to bed last night and forgot to reply - thanks for your postings!
Took your advice desphouswifetoo and took 12 packets of chocolate buttons in this morning - explained the trouble i had trying to find a cake. Went to pick him up this afternoon and they handed me the choc buttons back and said they couldnt give them out as they didint comply with the nursery's healthy eating policy! FFS!!! its not like i give them in every day - its to celebrate his birthday!!!
the deputy manager said the children wouldn't understand why they were getting them - how is that the answer - surely they wouldnt understand why they were getting the equally unhealthy cake if thats the reason!! and i would have thought thats part of bringing up children to explain they cant have unending amounts of something - surely the nursery must say no to them perhaps about having too much juice!
you can tell i'm a pit pissed off about this - sorry for the big rant!
might just eat the choc buttons myself later!!

[bagofhammers]

The government has new standards for food in schools. Maybe they are to be applied to nurseries etc. too.

Schools cannot give or sell sweets or crisps unless in is an occasional event eg Christmas disco. (I think monthly bake sales are banned)

"Cakes and biscuits can be served at lunchtimes as long as they contain no confectionery." Cakes cannot be sold in vending machines

Cakes may be allowed on birthdays but not sweets as cakes are traditional culturally. My ds school doesn't allow stuff to be brought in for birthdays.

If they give dried fruit as a snack, there is a limit on the amount of oil that can be used as a lubricant.

There are loads of rules. They are enforceable but I don't know how many schools are complying atm.

here

[desperatehousewifetoo]

Pissy policies!

What do they do for christmas parties?

At least you tried.

[bagofhammers]

tbh I prefer it when they are not allowed stuff. When my ds was at preschool 2 mornings a week for 2 terms, probably 3 out of 4 time when I collected him he had armfulls of sweets. Not little things like packets of buttons but mahoosive bags of sweets like you get at the cinema, king sized mars bars etc. At easter they gave him an easter egg you could bath a baby in. Not only was he not allowed a lot of the stuff because of his allergy but I had dd whingeing because she didn't have any and he never knew who it was from or why. I was also very PFB about him having lots of sweets (I still am). DS couldn't go to his preschool christmas party because it wouldn't be nut free but if it had been carrot sticks and apples he probably wouldn't have wanted to go .

[desperatehousewifetoo]

For my ds, bagged/wrapped sweets with ingredients are better than cakes as he has nut and egg allergy. At least he/we can then check the ingredients.

He's 6yr now so is used to not having things at parties and asking before he eats something.

His school still allows birthday cakes and has only gone nut free in the last year. I don't know if they police it though as they all have packed lunches.