Sons milk allergy

[Babiecakes91]

My 2 year olds at nursery and has been since September. I told the staff at his induction about his milk allergy and it was written on the board where they get snack time.
In November I went in and he was drinking milk and they told me I never told them, I pointed out it was written on the board beside the snack table, they were apologetic.
Then a week later I went back and he was eaten a yoghurt which is also on the board so I took there apology again.
Then last firs day I picked him up and was told he had stole another girls cup of milk obviously this couldn't be helped and is an honest mistake.
Then today I went to pick him up and one staff member pulled me to the side and told me she had gave my ds cereal with milk in it as she's didn't, this is the same person that was there when I told then the second time in November.
I know accidents happen but my ds is still up because his skin is now really bad and he also had autism so he can't communicate with me and he can't understand what I am telling him when trying to calm him down.
This means it's going to be a long night and he's extremely upset.
I don't like to cause conflict with people but the nursery needs to know not to give my ds milk as they are not the ones who are up at night with a child who's in pain, how can I say to them in the nicest possible way so they don't take it personally.
I can't take him out due to the tremendous eye contact he's being making due to his autism and it's a council run one who helps children with additional needs.

[GingerMaman]

This is dreadful and definitely not on. Can you call a meeting with the manager and be firm with her and let her know this can't be happening, and you require assurances that this won't happen again. And if it does, you'll be required to make a complaint to the council and ofsted.

[harverina]

This is unacceptable and extremely dangerous. I would ask for a meet if with the head teacher or manager, along with your child's key worker. Don't worry about people taking it personally, they have a duty of care to your son and you need to know that he is safe while he is at nursery. Their behaviour is negligent. Mistakes do happen, of course they do, but steps need to be taken to ensure that your son is as safe as possible in nursery.

[Superworm]

Agree...completely unacceptable. Is it a private or council nursery?

I has similar issues and put something in writing detailing what he's allergic to, what happens when he has them and asking how they intend to keep him safe while he is in their care.

I offered solutions eg. DS has a different coloured plate, cup etc so everyone is aware he is different. I provide all his food and suggested they put signs up so everyone knows his allergies and to what.

I specifically wanted info on how they would manage meal times, acknowledging it would be tricky. They initially suggested he sit in a high chair separately to the other kids until I reminded them about inclusion.

I wanted to know how they would manage him grabbing food off others plates and hoovering up leftovers from the floor and drinking from other children's cups.

It's all really important stuff and lots of people are clueless. I hate making a fuss too but you need to advocate for your child and your own sanity! Sleep dep and work do not mix.

[LCK]

I think this is shocking. I went in to see the nursery manager when my DD started and she invited me to their team meeting where they all tried out the training epipen and discussed how they would handle her egg, milk, lentil, pea, cashew and pistachio allergies.

They have a management plan from the hospital epipens and piriton etc available. At meal times and snack times someone sits with her so she can't nab other peoples food.

They largely leave eggs and dairy off the menu or do versions for her without cheese.

They give her soya milk when everyone else has their milk and are generally really careful.

She also wears a red wrist band so that people who are new to the nursery are aware that there is an allergy and check before she is given anything.

I think it is the same as your child should be treated and is not acceptable or safe for them to do anything else. I would have a fairly assertive word with them.

Good luck

[Babiecakes91]

Hey it's a council one and I am going to ask how they can make sure he isn't given milk again.
Ds symptoms don't appear for an hour or two after and he's picked up an hour after snack time so they have not seen what happens x

[Superworm]

If it's council run you can ask your health visitor to provide training for them. The school nurses usually do it as they manage quite a lot of allergies in the community. They have some brilliant resources on prevention from exposure from the anaphylaxis campaign.

Also their indemnity insurance isn't valid if the accept a child with allergies but don't receive proper training, do their us the support to help them.

DS has the same allergy from the sounds of it. I printed out the allergy uk info on delayed allergies for the nursery. They also gave him dairy/soy three times in the first month. We got NO sleep and I ended up getting a warning from work