Basically, my ex husband (my DS's father) has had mental health and severe alcohol issues for about 5 years now. He appears to function ok for so long and then he goes on a drinking binge where he drinks bottles of neat vodka for days on end. Around a year and a half ago he was in ICU fighting for his life after ingesting his own vomit.
He is now living with his elderly mother (she is 84 next month) and still has regular drinking binges.
Yesterday his mother phoned us in tears as she had nobody else to turn to and he was in such a bad way that she had had paramedics out and police round. He apparently got a knife and was threatening to stab himself unless she got him vodka. However, by the time the police arrived he was able to talk to them quite normally and they left, just advising her to let him have some drink as it is dangerous to go cold turkey.
We popped round today to check she was ok and the house absolutely stank where he had been vomiting, urinating and messing himself on her sofa. He was upstairs in the bedroom and we could hear him vomiting and demanding she bring him vodka between vomits.
She said that no one can help her as they all say it must be him that asks for the help. Social services are going to visit apparently but not until the end of this month.
I know people think we shouldn't get involved but she is an elderly lady with no family around her and we are worried about her.
Has anyone got any advice as to how we can get some support for her?
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Alcohol support
Ex husband is an alcoholic and I am worried about his elderly mother
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pinkchampagne1 · 07/02/2018 18:11
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