This isn’t on the face of it adoption related but I do feel that adoption is somehow playing a part here, so I thought I’d ask you good people.
DD (3) started a new nursery at the start of September. On day five, she was involved in an accident during a fire drill and got her hand caught in a metal gate. Her middle finger got crushed and we brought her to A&E, where they operated. We’ve had several follow up hospital appointments for dressings changes etc since then.
She has been having such a tough time since then. She has gone completely downhill behaviourally and emotionally. Very clingy, tearful and emotional, very angry, with outbursts towards us, and very oppositional. She was pretty strong willed to begin with but now I’d say she’s defiant about 90% of the time.
We’ve talked about the accident and we’ve tried to give her as much love and cuddles as possible but I feel now as if it’s getting serious and as though I’m out of my depth. Today was really tough. She bit me (hard!) in the park and didn’t go asleep till gone 10pm, having been sobbing for an hour.
Her background is that she was removed from BM at birth, spent 8 months with a pretty crappy FC and then came to us. She has so far been pretty straightforward - though has had her moments! - and is the absolute light of our lives.
I can’t help feeling that with the accident having happened when the carers etc were so new to her that this could be throwing up some adoption/attachment related ‘stuff’ for her.
I’d be so, so grateful for any advice on how we can help our little girl.
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Rainatnight · 06/10/2019 22:56
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