I'm aware that if you apply to adopt a child you will need to talk about your family history. Mine is quite complicated as in I was raised by a family who were not my biological family. They did not 'adopt' me but basically 'kidnapped' (no, really not to strong a word) from my very young, naïve, gullible mother by telling her that I had been made a Ward of Court and they had to hand her over to me because the judge said I was being neglected and she couldn't cope,
I experienced awful treatment in some ways from my family but there were also good people that I loved who helped me a lot. It really was not all bad.
Fast-forward to my 20's and I was treated very badly and let down by the ones I was close to and trusted. We did not speak for many years and then in my 40's we connected back and tried to build bridges. It didn't work and so now there has been contact at all for 7 years.
This no contact extends to all the family as a whole because it was too complicated to cut out a few people and still visit the others. It wouldn't have worked.
Will this go against me? I worry that they will ask me for contact details so that they can speak to these 'relatives' themselves. I would have no problem with that if they were honest but they will lie and obviously put their own spin on things.
I would rather just not start the process if this is likely to happen.
Does anyone know?
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TigerLilyMasie · 08/08/2019 17:12
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