hi all im 22 and have three children , two of which are naturally mine, and dd1 who i have had joint residency of with my dh since she was 3months.. the basics of the story is that . when i met dh he told me two weeks into relationship that his ex wasnt pregnant and that she had some mental health issue that have already caused her one child to be taken from her care - he told me of his worries for his baby and i decided to stand by him when baby arrived no matter what happened - baby was born a girl and within 3 months ss decided that her mum wasnt able to look after her after taking yet another overdose while in care of the baby - she was taken into foster care and we started our court battle - by the time she was 3.5 months her foster mother then became ill and ss said they were sure that we were going to win in court for residency and to save db from being moved more than she has to could we take cre of her - so i finished my job and became a stay at home mum to db at the age of 19!! when db was six months old the court decided on a temp residency order in our favour and supervised visits st our house for her mother this was a six month order for her to visit once a week - her mum turnedup only 3 times in 6 months!!! when dd became a year old we all went bk to court and her mother had decided she wanted her bk but the courts went in our favour again as we had been her main carers and her mother had willingly not seen her for over half her life they decided that it was best for dd not to be messed about by her mother illness's. she was aloud postal contact but now dd is aged 4 and she has reciecved nothing .......... ive tried to be honest with her since she could talk told her that she had another mummy and that she was in her tummy not mine and that she wasnt very well so couldnt look after her so she lives with me and daddy - she understands it all very well and if she ever has questions im happy to answer them she has seen photos of her mums family which helps and she is aloud to se them whenever she wants.. but her dad and i have gone on to have ds and dd2 and i cant help but think that it has all effected dd1 she is very emotional, always asks if we r coming bk even if we just nip to shops - and doesnt get on with dd2 and ds - is this the effect of her past - her just her personality ?? was wondering if you guys could help me as i want to do the best for her , i love her so much and dont want anything to upset this little world that we have tried to make for her - all advice welcome and thanks all
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Not exactly adoption - but residency of partners child as a baby now aged 4 - is she effectedby it??????
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lillaura123 · 02/08/2007 08:38
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