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DNA Tests unethical and unfair?

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RomanyQueen1 Wed 24-Apr-19 21:41:32

I am adopted pre 1975 I'm an oldie grin more babies adopted in my birth year than all the others in the 60's.

Our birth mothers were told that we would never be given their details and a lot of men probably didn't find out they were fathers.
What a bloody shock, especially as this age is now the target audience for Ancestry et al.

I know this has nothing to do with adoption today and the laws have changed, but this just seems wrong.

Some sort of mediation or assessment should be the norm, especially considering the amoun of

RomanyQueen1 Wed 24-Apr-19 21:42:12

oh posted too soon.

people this involves.

Italiangreyhound Wed 24-Apr-19 22:33:24

I certainly agree a large number of people were affected and there should be help to reconnect people of that's what they want.


I'm not sure what the title has to do with the posts.

RomanyQueen1 Wed 24-Apr-19 22:49:05

Aw, sorry.
Well it's unfair to me that it's allowed because people could be hurt. The DNA test can link to birth parents, it doesn't take too much working out who they are.
I think it's right that adopted people know their story, I know mine. In fact I guessed, but that's another thread.
I was lucky that I had my dh for support and the wonderful service of "The Adoption and Family Finding Unit" in Norwich. who were absolutely amazing apart from a major gaff.

Italiangreyhound Wed 24-Apr-19 23:35:59

RomanyQueen1 I'm glad you have your dh for support. thanks

FlippFlop Thu 16-May-19 16:39:01

What part is unethical or unfair?
I found my bio parents through DNA testing and that was after years of having doors shut in my face by social services.
I had no medical history, no idea of how i got here, and no real sense of identity.
It was a shock to BM but she is an amazing person and we have a great relationship now.
I had to go and find my answers because nobody would give me any and THAT is what is unethical and unfair.

DonutCone Thu 16-May-19 20:15:46

My DGM has never told DM who her Father is. My DM has a right to know, so she has taken a DNA test and hopes to find a match. I just don’t feel anything trumps your basic right to know who your parents are.

Moominmammaatsea Thu 16-May-19 23:29:32

I think a basic premise on the adoption board (mainly frequented by adoptive parents, but obviously not limited to them exclusively) is that children need to know about their families of origin. For all sorts of reasons, including identity, health (those pesky life-threatening allergies) and to avoid unwitting birth siblings potentially becoming sexually attracted to each other.

Offredalba Fri 17-May-19 00:51:28

Original birth certificates have always been available to adopted people over the age of 17 years in Scotland, due to the Scottish law on inheritance.
Mothers were never told that they couldn't be found, only that they couldn't look.

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