Good Afternoon,
Me and my girlfriend have been together a little over a year. After a few months separation due to work and travelling (still in a relationship during this time) we were finally reunited Sept 18.
Between that point and now we’ve been on contraception and she’s done numerous pregnancy tests all negative, until one test about a week ago which she only did on a whim because she had a few comments from customers whilst at work. So with that in mind we attempted to establish between us how far gone she could be due to the changing of the her/our contraception.
So as we are massively (financially, our current accommodation position and points in either of our careers I’m about to change mine which could make us struggle for a while before we’re stable again and we actually don’t want or have never wanted them together) not in the position to take on a child she visited Marie Stoops clinic to do the enivitable. Now expecting she was several weeks and she could take the pill - which was both our decision.
They judge her as being 6 months!!! Errr right!! Bearing in mind she’s done several tests from September - Today and she was on either the pill ,the patch or I’ve worn it - we’re not naive enough to try fate. The tests up until a week were negative. Now my GF is a curvy girl but not enough to hide 6 month bump and have been doing things such as drinking massivley over the Xmas period because as far as we were concerned there was no issue.
Now the queries I have are:
Can they mistake how far gone you are?
If they are correct can we apply for adoption before we give birth? I know for a fact there are many parents out there ready, willing and looking to have but are unable to “have” their own. I would never want to raise one without financial safety & living stability when there’s many that have gone through checks upon checks to be ready for a opportunity.
Our heads are on fire since finding out, she’s going to get a second opinion and a re-check before looking at options etc
We are completely together on all decisions but I never thought this would ever happen.
I appreciate all opinions and views just need people to talk to.
Thank you all so much in advance x
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Choices88 · 09/02/2019 16:25
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