Hi,
DH and I are just starting down the fertility clinic route. DH keeps trying to reassure me that if that doesn't work we can always adopt, in fact he is quite keen on the idea. The thing is I don't think there's a chance that we would pass the background checks.
DH has a serious mental illness (psychosis) which is currently well controlled. He has a history of drug and alcohol abuse neither of which are now a problem and he has a police record for stupid things he did whilst younger, (mentally unwell but not diagnosed At the time)
I also have mental health issues with periods of depression and anxiety and am recovering from PTSD.
We both work, have a great relationship and I feel will be great parents. There's no garunteed that DH or myself won't have further periods of mental illness though and She can be very debilitating and require hospitalization. Some of my friends are telling us that there's no reason we couldn't adopt and that refusing us on mental health grounds would be illegal under the disability discrimination act. I am however fully aware of the stigma attached to mental illness as we have already come up against it with medical professionals whilst ttc. I also know people who have been turned down as adopters for much less. So pretty sure it will be a resounding No.
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pinkdonkey · 09/03/2018 11:22
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