I know this has been done before but I've scrolled back through a few pages and can't find what I'm after. Can anyone recommend a resource with information for grandparents etc. We're six months into placement and I'm really struggling with my inlaws. I bought a copy of "Related by Adoption" but, having read it, I'm loathe to give it to MIL as I felt like it was all a bit too positive and what jumped out at me was how involved it seemed to be telling GPs etc. to be which is not what we need right now.
I suppose what I'm after ideally is something that covers:
*backing off and not trying to take over care giving
*keeping quiet when parents are setting boundaries and following those boundaries in their own interactions with the children
*respecting the importance of routines
*understanding that trying to spoil the children isn't what is needed
*basically not being a massive pain in the neck
Although they attended a family training session and at the time seemed as if they were very understanding, it feels now as if they've forgotten everything or decided that it doesn't apply to them and these particular kids. It means that I hate seeing them as I find it very stressful which isn't great for DH. Although he's tried to speak to them about it, some "expert" advice may go down better.
Thanks for any help that can be given!
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feelslikearockandahardplace · 03/02/2018 22:57
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