Help reading CPRs

[Allgrownup3]

Hi

I need advice on how to read a CPR. What do you look for and how do you read between the lines? What questions do I need to ask? The little boy sounds like any other cheeky toddler attachment to FC is good etc. Advice greatly accepted. Thank you

[Peppaismysaviour]

Think like you're reading a estate agent report. So cosy usually means tiny for example. Economical with the information. This is what we were told and it kind of helped. Are you reading full CPR or profile on link maker or such like?

[Rainatnight]

Also look for any inconsistencies, gaps or things that just don't make sense. It may be a sign that information is being withheld (at worst) or that the LA isn't entirely clear on some issues (at best). In both cases, you will need to do more digging.

[Jellycatspyjamas]

Ask what they mean by "attachment to FC is good" more often than not it means they have a good relationship rather than there being a secure attachment - which takes years to develop. You can't have good or bad attachment basically and in our case they kept saying there was good attachment to FC (subtext being that the kids will attach to you too) when they then went on to describe behaviours which screamed insecure attachment - which is what you'd expect.

[Allgrownup3]

Thank you for your responses. I'm reading an example of a full CPR. It's homework prep to prepare me for when I start looking.

[mymindisabridged]

I see the CPR as needing less 'reading between the lines', as 'what questions come from this?' It's written as a court document, so is often very down on the birth parents, and their lifestyles, and so getting info from FC can put this into a more realistic context.

I second, or third, the asking about 'good attachment to foster carers'- lots of social worker's don't know much about attachment at all, and many foster carers don't as well, not all, but many. Ask exactly what behaviours they think show 'good attachment'- that can be eye opening, and forewarned is forearmed!

[UnderTheNameOfSanders]

You mean something like this?

"needs parents with firm boundaries" = difficult to manage behaviour

"needs to be the only child or youngest by a long way" = very needy of adult attention, can't share

"some difficulty at night time" = up and down like a yo-yo, you won't get any sleep

"needs encouragement to XXX" = won't do it without assistance/fight

"meeting milestones" = meeting milestones, but that isn't the same as average as there is a very wide range as to what that officially means

[UnderTheNameOfSanders]

I'm probably thinking about children's profiles rather than CPRs.

CPRs

• can I cope with this if it doesn't improve
• could I discuss this life story with the child (e.g. if child is product of rape, what would you say)

[Allgrownup3]

Hi

Any advice on what to look for in a child who is under a year old CPR. I seem to find that there’s hardly any information on the child just their birth parents and it’s about 4 months out of date. Should I go back to the social worker and get an verbal or written update?

[fasparent]

Have too be none judge mental all children are different as are their history personal and family , medical and social health as well.
Our too with full FAS now adults are now fine both in work admit not been easy but out come was positive. Our other chid with Acquired brain injury is making brilliant progress, and we are hopeful will make a near full recovery had several refused links, is now our precious gain and very much loved by all , a very brave child lovely, smiley and cheeky.
Would ask for the Adoption paediatric medical report and History.

[CompletelyUnknown]

I have a ADD who we got at under 1. The funny thing is we never got the full report until we walked in the the matching panel!! The brief one we did get raised numerous questions. Medical background of parents, we asked for our DD to get full medical and due to the potential of FAD we pretty much demanded a photo to put our minds at ease for facial signs seeing as everything else was coming back as to be expected for such a young child.

Fast forward and she’s now 14 months and a bundle of joy.

Ask questions. If there are gaps fill them. This is your life and you want the best for any child you are matched with so get all the information you can. Our SW was amazing so wasn’t annoyed with our constant questions. It even resulted in extra blood tests for our DD.

[CompletelyUnknown]

Also under one advice.

Eye contact
Comfortable being held
Sleeping
Eating hearing


Etc

It’s only basics as they’re still developing.

[Kr1st1na]

I’d expect a child under one who has been with a foster carer for nearly all of their life to be average or better on Development. Because most FC’s are better than average carers. Slower than that indicates problems IMO.

I know two foster carers who take newborn babies . The last three children they got from birth and kept for about 12 months. I could tell that all were developmentally delayed , not from any expert assessment , just from being an experienced parent and knowing them socially.

All the prospective adopters were told that the children had some delays but no diagnosis and Sw were confident that they would do well once they were settled in an adoptive placement.

Which is true but IMO highly misleading .

Be very careful, adopting a very young baby is very risky.