DS has been home for eight months, and my return to work date is looming. I am partly looking forward to being myself again, but partly dreading putting DS in childcare. He has some attachment problems, and can be indiscriminately affectionate, and would go home with anyone who looked a likely new family, and make the best of it.
People tell me 'but he's always so happy!' because of the 'Charm offensive', which exhausts him in new situations.
In light of this, I'm struggling to find a nursery that makes the right noises about knowing about attachment problems, and seeing beyond the 'but he's so happy and comfortable, look he's wandered off and playing and giving the staff hugs already! He'll be fine.'
I really want him to be fine. I'm really not sure he will be.
I'm a single adopter, and have to return to work.
Does anyone have any advice about identifying a good nursery, and where to direct receptive staff for simple information etc? I've tried to broach 'no reward charts' and 'no time out', and that's given me a good feel that one is definitely not an option.
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catiscomfybutIneedapee · 10/02/2017 22:00
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